Financial Fitness

Originally posted on Eric H Stone - Grow with LIFE Leadership.:

ffbannerYou have the power to improve your finances, develop financial fitness, and positively impact the lives of those in your community and nation. and the time to take action is now. Below is a sample of the 47 Financial Fitness Principles:

Principle 2

Money is a gift. It has a specific use. this means that you have a stewardship. You are to use your money for something that matters, for your family and beyond.

Principle 11

Never sacrifice principles for money or possessions. Be honest. Keep your integrity. Keep your priorities in the right order.

Principle 21

Put some money into preparing for a worst-case scenario. Don’t be fanatical about this, but don’t ignore it either.

Principle 31

Teach your children and youth the principles of financial fitness. Set the example for them. Mentoring them will help you as well as them.

Principle 42

Studying and understanding free enterprise is…

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Back to Basics: Seven Types of Listeners and Tips for Better Listening Skills

Here is a great article on the types of listeners, courtesy of Dale Carnegie.

Exceptional listening skills and the ability to persuade others to your way of thinking make the difference between good and great teams. Pure listening builds trust, credibility, and respect. One reason is that when you fully listen instead of trying to compose your response, the result is a relevant and on-target response. What you say when you do respond is proof of how well you listen.

The “Preoccupieds”

These people come across as rushed and are constantly looking around or doing something else. Also known as multitaskers, these people cannot sit still and listen.

Tips

If you are a “Preoccupied” listener, make a point to set aside what you are doing when someone is speaking to you.

If you are speaking to a “Preoccupied” listener, you might ask, “Is this a good time?” or say, “I need your undivided attention for just a moment.” Begin with a statement that will get their attention, be brief, and get to the bottom line quickly because their attention span is short.

The “Out-to-Lunchers”

These people are ready to chime in at any given time. They are perched and ready for a break to complete your sentence for you. They are not listening to you. They are focused on trying to guess what you will say and what they want to say.

Tips

If you are an “Out-to-Luncher,” act like a good listener. Be alert, maintain eye contact, lean forward, and show interest by asking questions.

If you are speaking to an “Out-to-Luncher,” check in with them every now and again and ask if they understood what you were saying. As with the “Preoccupieds,” begin with a statement that will catch their attention and be concise and to the point, because their attention span is also short.

The “Interrupters”

These people remain aloof and show little emotion when listening. They do not seem to care about anything you have to say.

Tips

If you are an “Interrupter,” make a point to apologize every time you catch yourself interrupting. This will make you more conscious of it.

If you are speaking to an “Interrupter,” when they chime in, stop immediately and let them talk, or they will never listen to you. When they are done, you might say, “As I was saying before…” to bring their interruption to their attention.

The “Whatevers”

These people remain aloof and show little emotion when listening. They do not seem to care about anything you have to say

Tips

If you are a “Whatever,” concentrate on the full message, not just the verbal message. Make a point to listen with your eyes, ears, and heart. Pay attention to body language and try to understand why this person wants to talk to you about this issue.

If you are speaking to a “Whatever,” dramatize your ideas and ask your listener questions to maintain their involvement.

The “Combatives”

These people are armed and ready for war. They enjoy disagreeing and blaming others.

Tips

If you are a “Combative,” make an effort to put yourself in the speaker’s shoes and understand, accept, and find merit in another’s point of view.

If you are speaking to a “Combative,” when he or she disagrees or points the blame, look forward instead of back. Talk about how you might agree to disagree or about what can be done differently next time.

The “Analysts”

These people are constantly in the role of counselor or therapist, and they are ready to provide you with unsolicited answers. They think they are great listeners and love to help. They are constantly in an analyze-what-you-are-saying-and-fix-it mode.

Tips

If you are an “Analyst,” relax and understand that not everyone is looking for an answer, solution, or advice. Some people just like bouncing ideas off other people because it helps them see the answers more clearly themselves.

If you are speaking to an “Analyst,” you might begin by saying, “I just need to run something by you. I’m not looking for any advice.”

The “Engagers

These are the consciously aware listeners. They listen with their eyes, ears, and hearts and try to put themselves in the speaker’s shoes. This is listening at the highest level. Their listening skills encourage you to continue talking and give you the opportunity to discover your own solutions and let your ideas unfold.

Tips

If you are an “Engager,” keep it up. People truly appreciate this about you.

If you are speaking to an “Engager,” take the time to acknowledge their attentiveness. Thank them for their interest in you and your topic.

Back to Basics :How to win friends and influence people

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As a continuation of my “Going Back to basics” series, anyone who has stuided leadership before knows the importance of excellent communication and people skills.

The more I studied leadership over time,  the more I realized that I needed to spend just as much time reading the top 5 team books as I did learning specific business principles, and applying those principles on a regular basis.  Its been said so many times before by so many great leaders- practices are many, principles are few, practices always Change, principles never do.

My “back to basics” series will help bring to the forefront of your mind, those principles that will bring positive change into your business and personal relationships. As you go thru them, see how many of these principles you truly apply on a daily basis. Please read the book! Until then, here are some summary points I have listed from Dale Carnegie’s timeless book, “How to win friends and influence people”.

How to win friends and influence people summary:

On handling people

Principal #1 Don’t criticize, condemn or complain

Principal #2 Give honest and sincere appreciation

Principal #3 Arouse in the other person an eager want

Six ways to make people like you

Principal #1 Become genuinely interested in other people

Principal #2 SMILE!

Principal #3 Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language

Principal #4 Be a good listener

Principal #5 Talk in terms of the other person’s interest

Principal #6 Make the other person feel important and do it sincerely

How to Win people to your way of thinking

Principle #1 The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it

Principle #2 Show respect for the other persons opinion. Never say “you’re wrong”

Principle #3 If your are wrong,  admit it quickly and emphatically

Principal #4 Begin in a Friendly way

Principal #5 Get the other person saying yes yes immediately

Principal #6 Let the other person do a great deal of the talking

Principal #7 Let the other person feel that the idea was his or hers

Principal #8 Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view

Principal#9 Be empathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires

Principal #10 Appeal to the nobler motives

Principal #11 Dramatize your ideas

Principal #12 Throw Down a challenge

Be a leader: How to change people without giving offense or arousing resentment

Principal #1 Begin with praise and honest appreciation

Principal #2 Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly

Principal #3 Talk about your own mistakes Before criticizing the other person

Principal #4 Ask questions instead of giving direct orders

Principal #5 Let the other person save face

Principal #6 Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement.  Be hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise

Principal #7 Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to

Principal #8 Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct

Principal #9 Make the other person happy about doing the things you suggest

Back to Basics: How to have confidence and power in dealing with people

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As part of my new “back to basics” blog series, I wanted to re-post a blog article I did a few years back.  I believe these timeless principles are so important yet easy to overlook on a daily basis.  At the very core of any business, relationship, negotiation, event, or activity, these principles are keys to success.  If you read, study and implement these on a regular basis, you will be amazed at the results.  Enjoy.

How to have power and confidence in dealing with people, by Les Giblin, is an amazing book and one of  the  top 5 books that help individuals improve their business and personal lives in a significant way.  I took the liberty of posting the key points of each chapter to help paint the big picture.  Hope it helps and inspires everyone.  Have a safe and blessed day!

Key bullet points from each chapter of the book, “How to have confidence and power in dealing with people.

Chapter 1

1. It is a proven fact that from 66 to 90 percent of all failures in the business world are failures in human relations.
2. So called personality problems such as timidity, shyness, and self-consciousness, are basically problems in dealing with people.
3. Learn the skills in dealing with people with confidence and you will automatically improve your own success and happiness.
4. Learn the underlying principles involved in dealing with people and you wont need gimmicks.

Chapter 2

1. We are all egoists.
2. We are all more interested in ourselves than in anything else in the world.
3. Every person you meet wants to feel important, and to amount to something.
4. There is a hunger in every human being for approval.
5. A hungry ego is a mean ego.
6. Satisfy the other persons hunger for self-esteem and he automatically becomes more friendly
and likable.
7. Love thy neighbor as thyself. Psychologists now tell us that unless you do love yourself in
the sense of having some feeling of self-esteem and self-regard, it is impossible for you to feel friendly towards other people.
8. Help the other fellow like himself better and you make him easier to get along with.
9. People act or fail to act, largely to enhance their own ego.

Chapter 3

1. Don’t be stingy in feeding the hunger for a feeling of importance.
2. Don’t underestimate small courtesies such as being on time for an appointment. It is by such things that we acknowledge the importance of the other person. Unfortunately, we are often more courteous to strangers than to home folks. Try treating your family and friends with the same courtesy you show strangers
3. Remind yourself that other people are important, and your attitude will get across to the other person.
4, Start today, begin to notice other people more. Pay attention to a man or child and you make him feel important.
5. Don’t hold it over other people or attempt to increase your own feeling of self importance by making other people feel small.

Chapter 4

1. Whether you realize it or not, you control the actions and attitudes of others by your own actions and attitudes.
2. Your own attitudes are reflected back to you from the other person almost as if you stood in front of a mirror.
3. Act or feel hostile and the other fellow reflects this hostility back to you. Shout at him and he is almost compelled to shout back. Act calmly and unemotionally and you turn away his anger before it gets started.
4. Act enthusiastic and you arouse the enthusiasm of the other person.
5. Act confidently and the other person has confidence in you.
6. Begin today deliberately to cultivate an enthusiastic attitude. Take a tip from Frank Bettinger, and act as if you were enthusiastic. Soon you will be enthusiastic.
7. Right now, begin deliberately to cultivate a confident manner. Don’t mumble you words as if you were afraid to express them. Speak out. Watch your posture. A slumped figure signifies that you find the burdens of life too heavy for you to bear. A drooping head signifies that you are defeated by life. Hold your head up. Straighten up your shoulders.
8. Walk with a confident step as if you had somewhere important to go.

Chapter 5

1. In dealing with people, you yourself sound the keynote for the entire theme, when you begin the interview.
2. If you start off on a note of formality the meeting will be formal. Start off on a note of  friendliness and the meeting will be friendly. Set the stage for a business like discussion and it will be business like. Start on a note of apology and the other person will force you to play that theme all the way through.
3. When you meet someone for the first time, the impression you make then is very likely to be the keynote that will determine how he regards you for the rest of your life.
4. Other people tend to accept you at your own evaluation. If you think you are a nobody, you are practically asking other people to snub you.
5. One of the best means ever discovered for impressing the other fellow favorably is not to strive too hard to make an impression but to let him know that he is making a good impression on you.
6. People judge you not only by the opinion you hold of yourself but also by the opinions you hold on other things. your job, your company, even your competition.
7. Negative opinions create a negative atmosphere. Don’t be a knocker, and don’t be a sore head. The way, itself in which you ask things sets the stage or sounds the keynote for the other persons answer. Don’t ask no questions if you want yes answers. Don’t ask questions or issue instructions that imply you expect trouble. Why ask for trouble?

Chapter 6

Accept, Approve, Appreciate

1. Accept people as they are. Allow them to be themselves. Don’t insist on anyone being perfect before you can like them.
2. Approve. Look for something to approve in the other person. It may be something small.  Let the person know you approve of that.
3. Appreciation. To appreciate means to raise in value as opposed to depreciate which means to lower in value. Treat other people as if they were valuable to you. Thank them and give them special treatment.

Chapter 7

1. Human relations often become deadlocked because each party is afraid to make the first move.
2. Don’t wait for a sign from the other fellow. Assume that he is going to be friendly and act accordingly.
3. Assume the attitude that you wish the other person to take. Act as if you expected him to like you.
4. Take a chance that the other fellow will be friends. It is always a gamble but you will win 99 times for every time you lose. If you just bet on his being friendly. Refuse to take the chance and you lose every time.
5. Don’t be an eager beaver. Don’t be overly anxious. Don’t knock yourself out trying to make the other fellow like you. Remember there is such a thing as being too charming and trying too hard.
6. Just relax and take for granted that other people do like you.
7. Use the magic of your smile to warm up the other fellow.
8. Starting today, begin to develop a genuine smile by practicing before your bathroom mirror.
You know what a real smile looks like when you see one. You mirror will tell you whether your smile is real or phony. Also, going through the motions of smiling will get you in the habit and actually make you feel more like smiling.

Chapter 8

1. Both success and happiness depend in large measure on our ability to express ourselves.
Therefore start today to study ways to improve your talk. Keep at it day after day.
2. Practice starting conversations with strangers by using the warm up technique of asking simple questions or making obvious observations.
3. TO be a good conversationalist, stop trying to be perfect and don’t be afraid to be trite.
4. Nuggets and gems in conversation come only after you have dug a lot of low grade ore.
5. Ask questions to bring out interesting talk from others.
6. Use “ me too” technique to identify yourself with the speaker and his interests.
7. Talk about yourself only when invited to do so by the other person.  If he wants to know about you, he will ask.
8. Use happy talk  Nobody likes a goomy gus or prophet of gloom and doom.  Keep your troubles to yourself.
9. Eliminate teasing, kidding,  and sarcasm from your conversation.
10. Encourage the other person to talk about himself. Talk about the other persons interests.
Chapter 9

1. The art of listening will make you rich.
2. Look at the person who is talking. Anybody worth listening to is worth looking at. It will also help you concentrate on what he is saying.
3. Appear deeply interested in what he or she is saying. If you agree nod your head. Respond to his cue, work with him.
4. Lean toward the person who is talking.
Chapter 10
1. Dealing with people you may not agree with.
2. Let him state his case.
3. Pause momentarily before you answer.
4. Don’t insist on winning 100%
5. State your case moderately and accurately.
6. Speak thru third persons, Let the other person save face.

Chapter 11

1. If you want other people to help you, and go all out you must ask for their ideas as well as or their brawn.
2. Make the other fellow feel that your problem is their problem.
3. Use the principle of multiple management, giving each member of the team a voice in how the
team is to operate.
4. When you want someone to do you a favor make him a member of your team. Don’t just say, how about putting in a good word for me. Say if you were in my shoes and wanted to get favorable attention how would you go about it?
5. Set up your own brain trust and make use of the ideas suggestions and advice of other people.
6. Be sure when you ask for advice you actually want advice. DON’T Ask for advice if you want sympathy or a pat on the back.

Chapter 12

1. Sincere praise miraculously releases energy in the other person, perks him up physically as well as giving his spirits a lift.
2. The person who is discouraging doing sloppy work or just hard to get along with is probably suffering from low self-esteem. Praise can act as a wonder drug to give his self-esteem a healthy shot in the arm change his behavior for the better.
3. Give others credit for what they do. Show your appreciation of what they have done by saying THANK YOU.
4. Be generous with kind statements. Gratitude is not a common thing. By being generous with gratitude, you make yourself a stand out.
5. Increase your own happiness and peace of mind by paying three sincere compliments each day.

Chapter 13

1. Criticism must be made in privacy
2. Preface criticism with a kind word or compliment.
3. Make the criticism the act, not the person
.4. Supply the answer.
5. Ask for cooperation, don’t demand it.
6. One criticism to an offense.
7. Finish in a friendly fashion.

Chapter 14

KNOWLEDGE PLUS APPLICATION EQUALS SUCCESS!!
HAVE A POSITIVE ATTITUDE!!

Back to Basics in Leadership

I am starting a new series of posts that focus on going “Back to Basics”. These basics are the foundation of leadership and serve to guide us through not only our  business endeavors but also our personal lives.  By learning and focusing on these timeless principles, the end results are truly amazing.

We can and should all strive to get better at the things that matter in life.  Who wouldn’t want to be a better Mom or Dad to your kids, become a better friend to your buddies,become a better spouse to your significant other, a better co-worker or employee at your job or become a successful business owner, all based on learning and applying these basic principles over time.  The results are truly worth the effort.

I thought Id start with a great video by Chris Brady, who talks about what leadership is. Enjoy and stay tuned for my “back to basics” posts.

Ben

‘Leadershift’ at #2 spot on Wallstreet Journal’s best seller list

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LeaderShift Hits #2 on Wall Street Journal Bestseller List

Orrin Woodward’s and Oliver DeMille’s runaway bestsellerLeaderShift hit #2 this week on the Wall Street Journal Bestseller list.LeaderShift describes how the Five Laws of Decline (FLD), first articulated in Orrin Woodward’s Top 100 All-Time Leadership BookRESOLVED: 13 Resolutions for LIFE, is destroying Western Civilization. In fact, every Western Society that collapsed did so through the effects of the Five Laws of Decline; therefore, any turnaround proposed by political leaders must account for and check the FLD.

Are you concerned about America, North America, and Western Civilization’s liberties? If so, then read LeaderShift and learn the FLD and how to check them within free societies. Now is the time for all good men and women to come to the aid of their country. Here is the latest WSJ top seller list.

Some good quotes on thinking and judgment

Leadership Ahead

Quotes on THINKING & JUDGMENT

“Erroneous assumptions can be disastrous.”

— Peter Drucker

“Some problems are so complex that you have to be highly intelligent and well-informed just to be undecided about them.”

— Laurence J. Peter

“The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them.”

— Albert Einstein

“The most serious mistakes are not being made as a result of wrong answers. The truly dangerous thing is asking the wrong questions.”

— Peter Drucker Men, Ideas & Politics

“It’s not so much a case of having to pay attention to the news of the world as it is a case of knowing when to change our filters so that the important stuff comes in.”

— Bill Welter & Jean Egmon The Prepared Mind of a Leader

“He who cannot change the very fabric of his thought will never be able to change reality, and will never, therefore, make any progress.”

— Anwar el-Sadat

“In the course of history, there comes a time when humanity is called to shift to a new level of consciousness, to reach a higher moral ground. A time when we have to shed our fear and give hope to each other. That time is now.”

—Wangari Maathai Lecture upon receiving the 2004 Nobel Peace Prize

“Others inspire us, information feeds us, practice improves our performance, but we need quiet time to figure things out, to emerge with new discoveries, to unearth original answers.”

—Ester Buchholz

“What we see depends mainly on what we look for.”

— John Lubbock

“Not everything that counts can be counted, and not everything that can be counted counts.”

— Alfred Einstein

“If the stars should appear but one night every thousand years how man would marvel and adore.”

— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“It is not the man who has little, but he who desires more, that is poor.”

— Seneca

“To doubt everything or to believe everything are two equally convenient solutions; both dispense with the necessity of reflection.”

— Jules Henri Poincaré

“Leadership in business is a matter not so much of the knowledge which the individual has acquired through formal education as it is of his ability to bring into full play all the resources of his mind.”

— Clarence B Randall, The Executive in Transition

Personal financial development 101

Over the course of many years of reading and learning about finances through the LIFE business, it is clear that those who embark upon self-development tend to have better outcomes in life to those who just go with the flow of what the world has to offer. This is why there is a lot of talk about Personal Development which has become a billion dollar industry.

MFC_Finace_45No matter where you are in life, personal development is a lifelong journey. No matter what your age or background is, you cannot afford to stop learning. This is the reason why you see people continually seeking ways to improve and do better with their lives.

Although there are many aspects of personal development, I want to focus on personal financial education and development. One thing I learned over the years is that if you keep doing what you have always done, you will keep getting what you always got. This applies to everything in life anywhere from your health and relationships to your wealth and finances.

So what is Personal Financial Development? It is you embarking on a journey of financial discovery. It starts with you understanding your relationship with money. How it has impacted your life to date and what areas need improvement.

Let’s take a look at two basic questions before going further with this topic. What is your financial status? Are you in a job, work for yourself, job seeker or generally unemployed.

How would you describe your financial life? Is your income stable or unstable? Do you live by a budget? Are you currently planning your future? Do your financial priorities dictate your life? Do you know where your money goes or does it free-flow through your life? Ponder these questions as we take a look at how you can embark upon your personal financial development.

There are several sources to learn from. If you are struggling in your finances, start by educating yourself on the basics of money and finances. Personally, I prefer to take advice and educate myself from individuals and sources that have proven results. There are always going to be people who try to impress others with their knowledge and offer free advice. Orrin Woodward once said, “Be careful who you take advice from because they may be broke”. I can proudly say that the information I have learned from LIFE and all the amazing business savvy individuals I have met, has truly made a difference in my financial life. I highly recommend taking the time to look at some of the material that LIFE has to offer. This information has helped countless people get their finances right, get out of debt and live better lives.

It has taken some people a number of years to develop their financial skills but it is a journey well worth taking and can change both your short and long term security and success. To paraphraze a passage from a great book, “The Slight Edge”, it’s the little things you do over time that make the biggest impact. So start your personal financial journey today and in years to come you will be grateful that you did.

Ben

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Here is a great article from one of my favorite authors, Brian Tracy.  This brief talk on character and integrity was inspiring. I believe that Applying simple yet effective concepts in leadership and personal development over time can have a huge impact on both our personal and professional lives. Enjoy.

Leadership tidbits

Leaders are made, not born. They create and develop themselves by becoming men and women of fine character and integrity.

Earl Nightingale once wrote, “If honesty did not exist, it would have to be invented, as it is the surest way of getting rich.” A study at Harvard University concluded that the most valuable asset that a company has is how it is known to its customers>its reputation, especially for honesty and quality.

The Key To Developing Character

A key to developing integrity and character in yourself is to study men and women of great character. Study the lives and stories of people like George Washington, Abraham Lincoln, Winston Churchill, Florence Nightingale, and Susan B. Anthony. Study the people whose strength of character enabled them to change their world.

You can do the same thing they would do. Select someone who you very much admire for their qualities of courage, tenacity, honesty, or wisdom. You will find yourself receiving guidance that enables you to be the very best person that you can possibly be.

There are three areas of your life where acting with integrity is crucial. These are the three areas of greatest temptation for forsaking your integrity, as well as the areas of greatest opportunity for building your integrity.

The first area of integrity has to do with your relationships with your family and your friends, the people close to you. Being true to yourself means living in truth with each person in your life. It means refusing to say or do something that you don’t believe is right. Living in truth with other people means that you refuse to stay in any situation where you are unhappy with the behavior of another person. You refuse to tolerate it. You refuse to compromise.

The second area of integrity has to do with your attitude and behavior toward money. Casualness toward money brings casualties in your financial life. You must be fastidious about your treatment of money, especially other people’s money. You must guard your credit rating the same way you would guard your honor. You must pay your bills punctually, or even early. You must keep your promises with regard to your financial commitments.

The third area of integrity has to do with your commitments to others, especially in your business, your work and your sales activities. Always keep your word. Be a man or a woman of honor. If you say that you will do something, do it. If you make a promise, keep it. If you make a commitment, fulfill it. Be known as the kind of person that can be trusted absolutely, no matter what the circumstances.

Your integrity is manifested in your willingness to adhere to the values you hold most dear. It’s easy to make promises and hard to keep them, but if you do, every single act of integrity will make your character a little stronger.

Here are two steps you can take immediately to put these ideas into action.

First, identify men and women of great character, whom you admire, and read their life stories. Think of how you could apply the lessons they learned to your own life.

Second, keep your word. Keep your promises and commitments. Always do what you say you will do and guard your integrity as a sacred thing.

Character and Integrity

A great LIFE testimony

Here’s some great testimony that Orrin posted about a couple who have been utilizing the LIFE material for the last year. This is proof that whether you build a business based on helping others or not, this material is life changing. Like Orrin said, the product in this business is a “Better YOU”. If the end result is not only a “better you” but a better relationship, better finances, better attitude or a better faith life, just among a few areas,  that alone is worth the price to pay, a real win-win.  God Bless and Happy New Year!

Private Achievements Lead to Public Achievements

by Orrin Woodward

I received the following email from Vivian, the wife of my good friend Michael Holloway. A year ago, they joined LIFE to improve their marriage, finances, and friendships. This emails confirms the first year was a HUGE success. Interestingly, what makes the LIFE Business so different than conventional network marketing companies is the product is a better you. This can be achieved even if the person doesn’t become a celebrated millionaire. In fact, the whole purpose of LIFE is to help people achieve personal goals, whether these goals revolve around having fun, making money, or making a difference is up to them. Michael and Vivian started the business with Mike recently out of work. However, they didn’t use lack of money as an excuse not to read, listen, and associate. Indeed, with the finance pack, family pack, and Mental Fitness Challenge, they transformed their home life, leading to rewards greater than any dollar figure.

Mike and Vivian are champions because they are leading their families based upon principles today. The LIFE Business didn’t change their lives, but they did by using he principles learned from the business. Mike applied the PDCA process to acquiring his GED and received his high school diploma, ending year of living with regret for not finishing school. Moreover, he changed his leadership methods and joined the coaching staff of the local soccer club. In truth, his leadership and encouragement of his team was nothing short of amazing and made me proud to be one of the LIFE Founders because I could see firsthand the effects it was having on Michael’s life, and through his changes, he changed his family and community. When a person changes his life, he changes everyone around him. Consequently, the LIFE Business is changing the world one person at a time! I am so proud of the Holloway family for living the Biblical principles that lead to real growth and change! Here is the email from Vivian.

Sincerely,

Orrin Woodward

This email has been a long time coming. My husband Michael is an amazing man. I don’t believe I could have said that and meant it a little over a year ago. Last year he recommitted his life to Christ and through prayer we were led to you and LIFE. Today, Michael has his high school diploma, has read countless amounts of books and we couldn’t be more proud of him. Through the material he has learned so much that he now has a real relationship with our daughter. Who would have thought that a man that didn’t like to read would learn patience, understanding, about relationships and so much more through Books and CDs’?

As you know he was coaching Steven’s soccer team. Due what he has learned it turned out to be a wonderful season. It was great watching other coaches yelling and getting upset and my husband would smile and say something like “that would have been me a year ago”. He is continuously confronted with situations that he would have handled in a completely different way. We all saw the changes in the players and the team as a whole through the encouraging emails he would send the players weekly. He was able to use what he had learned to boost the teams’ confidence. Even the parents requested to be copied to the emails. It’s was amazing to see the mutual respect that they developed over time.

Riding in the car with him is no longer stressful because, I know that he is not going to yell at another driver. He now smiles and makes some funny remark. He no longer agrees with us to keep the peace he truly listens to us. Life at home isn’t perfect but through the materials we are able to see where changes need to be made and because of what Michael has learned we make adjustments. Instead of thinking that he knows everything he constantly tells me that he still has growing to do. One change that has really made a big difference in our marriage is that he no longer tries to fix things or find solutions when I tell him about a problem. He just listens and supports me and that means a lot.

FYI, we still have more PDCA on our family meetings but we do not give up. We thank you and Laurie for allowing us the opportunity to help ourselves and others.

Vivian Holloway

LIFE EDGE Series

Here is a great post from Orrin Woodward on the Edge Series.  This is something I truly believe can help children and young adults for generations to come.  Book smarts and good grades are important but LIFE skills are equally important.  As i mentioned in earlier posts, I wish I knew some of this stuff as a child! 

Chris Brady did it again. For months, he kept a torrent pace of emails, phone calls, and in-person meetings to influence me on the importance of LIFE skills training for youth. The results of his efforts have blown us all away. The Edge Series alone is surging past 6,000 subscribers! In fact, many of the kids are earning the money and paying for their own subscription. How do I know this? Because anyone 12 years old or above can attend a LIFE event, and the amount of adolescent boys and girls attending seminars has increased dramatically. When I speak across the USA and Canada, I routinely have multiple boys and girls, dressed in business attire, tell me their story as they ask me to sign a book or their Edge Subscription.

Leadership and life skills are crucial in a person’s life. Why wait until after the school years to realize this? Why not give your kids an EDGE? The first EDGE is parents who model the right behaviors, and the second is the Edge Series delivered directly to the home of hungry kids wanting to learn the principles of success. Packed full of stories from the successful men and women in the LIFE business, along with exclusive interviews with top names in athletics and business, the Edge Series has become one of the favorite products in LIFE. What the Mental Fitness Challenge is to adults, the Edge Series is for youth. A huge thank you goes to Chris Brady and all of the speakers who have made the Edge Series what it is. Below is a video that describes the Edge Series.

Sincerely,

Orrin Woodward

A great post on attitude by Chris Brady

It’s not what happens to you, it’s what you happen to do with what happens to you.

I am impressed by many people, especially those who have a great attitude, seem focused on others, and make me feel good by just being around them. Often, however, I have been surprised to eventually find out that the person behaving in this admirable way has had anything but an easy life. In one case, the couple had lost a teenage child, in another, one had battled cancer, in yet another, family financial challenges were nearly taking them under. Yet, in spending time with these people, none of these burdens were obvious, no complaints were forthcoming, and negativity seemed to have no place in their vocabulary.

Contrast this with people who are not happy unless they are unhappy; those who appear hard-wired to focus on the downside of everything, complaining about this slight or that perceived unfair situation as though they were the world’s #1 victim.

What is the difference between the two groups?

In my opinion, the difference stems from a person’s perspective on events, and how he or she responds to the challenges of life. Bad times and hardships skip no one. Sickness, death, relational struggles, and other frictions of life do not single out particular victims. We are all swimming in the same soup. Realizing this is a major step toward maturity and will go a long way to improving your relationships and attractiveness.

Why, in a culture and time in which people are so blessed, are so many full of complaints?

Peculiarly, negative people don’t think they are negative. If they admit to any impertinence at all, they will usually say they are merely being “realistic.” This is a non sequitur, because their perspective on reality is warped by their ungratefulness, and they are no more infallible than anyone else when it comes to defining true reality.

How can you be more positive and more fun to be around? Here are ten things to consider:

1. Realize that it’s not what happens to you, but how you respond that counts. We all have it tough in some way(s), so stop comparing yourself to others and begin tracking your own personal growth, instead.

2. Never stop counting your blessings. The truth is, your every breath is a gift.

3. Don’t take yourself too seriously. It’s refreshing to come across someone who is truly humble.

4. Look for good in people and situations. You will be delighted by the surprising treasures you’ll discover.

5. Become “other” focused, and think about how you can serve rather than receive. Sacrifice is a surprising paradox that serves the server as much as the served.

6. Consider your mortality, and operate with an eternal perspective. This involves prayer and worship, and being more concerned with whose you are than who you are.

7. Treat being flexible as an open invitation to unplanned adventure. It’s the unexpected that often thrills us the most. Be open to it.

8. Find your purpose in life and pour your efforts into it. Work barely seems like work when you’re doing what you were built to do. Do what you were meant to and do it with a purpose.

9. Forgive quickly, and forget even faster. Carrying grudges only builds muscles of bitterness. Lighten up by dropping that load.

10. Be present wherever you are. Multi-tasking is a thief, robbing us of joys and stealing our ability to focus and create clear memories. If you’re with your kids, be with your kids. If you’re at work, be at work. Stop splitting yourself into little worthless pieces.

And there is probably an eleventh: Don’t read too many blog articles like this one where the author preaches at you as if he’s got it all together himself. Nobody is that good!

The Art of Listening

Here is a great article by Orrin Woodward on the Art of Listening.  Often, its helpful to be reminded of what we already know and should be doing. Applying some of these basic principles can make all the difference in both our personal and professional lives. Have a great day.

Ben

If I were to pick the most important art in dealing with people it would be the art of listening. Nothing increased my ability to lead people as much as learning how to listen. No matter how powerful a speaker you develop into, it is not as effective as powerful listening.

I am hesitant to share this topic because I am aware of how much I need to improve in this area still! With that said, I can still remember the day I focused on listening to others before drawing wrong conclusions and solving the wrong problems. What a break thru it was to realize that not everyone wanted the problem solved as much as they wanted someone to listen!

If I were to pick one area for all Team Leaders to improve in, I would pick listening over all others besides character. You cannot connect with others until you have listened long enough for them to feel understood by you. When a person feels you understand; you can work together to solve any issues that need to be addressed, in a spirit of teamwork.

Without listening to others, your solutions come across as domineering and not heartfelt. Remember, people do not care how much you know until they know how much you care! Do you care for your community? If you do, then close your mouth and actively listen to them. You have two ears and one mouth – please use in that proportion. Ask questions and listen – save the seminars for when you are asked to speak!

God Bless, Orrin Woodward

We all take talking for granted. Though you may occasionally feel your hands grow cold before giving a speech, you often talk without recognizing the simultaneous changes that occur in your body.

Research shows that while we speak with our words, we also speak with every fiber of our being. This ‘language of the heart’ is integral to the health and emotional life of all of us.

Blood pressure and heart rate elevates every time you speak, even when discussing the most neutral topic. Even those who speak through signing had the same results.

For people who are hypertensive, the rise caused by talking was much greater than for healthy people, and often well into the danger zone. How do hypertensive people handle this? After all, most do not drop dead during social encounters. Other studies show that they subconsciously maintain distance in their relationships and minimize what can be for them ‘lethal dialogues’.

What makes the cardiovascular system of hypertensive’s so vulnerable to verbal communication? Though the hypertensive’s studied were outwardly calm, many tended to talk intensely and breathlessly, interrupting and speaking over other people. This kind of speech is typical of Type – A behavior, an impulsive, hard driving life style linked to increased risk of heart disease.

Most normal talk is a seesaw. The rising of blood pressure when one talks is balanced by a rapid lowering of pressure when one listens. But the rhythm is out of sync in hypertensive’s. They frequently fail to listen; they are on guard, defensive. So their pressure stays up.

Learning to calmly listen to another person helps lower blood pressure. By learning to listen more, by breathing regularly while talking, and paying attention to what the other person is saying, you can learn to lower your blood pressure.

Since so few people genuinely attend to others, those who will learn to draw out the other person can be guaranteed all the friendships they can handle and can be assured of deepening the relationships they presently own.

The road to the heart is the ear. – Voltaire

Why are so many of us poor listeners? Much of our listening education was in the form of be quiet, listen and pay attention. Most of the people in our society are passive listeners, geared to react on trigger words, and shut out tedium.

Time spend learning in school: 

40% learning how to read

35% learning how to write

25% learning how to talk

1% learning how to listen or communicate

We can learn to be good listeners with some work and practice. The rewards can be great.

1. Know when you are not listening. 

Check yourself by asking silently: Can I repeat, rephrase or clarify what has just been said?” If you can’t, the sound may be on but the replay is broken.

2. Know why you are not listening.

As you define your excuses for not listening you will systematically eradicate the ‘watching someone talk’ syndrome. Check the following common reasons for not listening and begin to take silent control of the communication.

* We hear only what we want to hear.

* We consider the topic or information unimportant.

* We jump to conclusions

* Too many other problems on our minds.

* Radical departure from our own thinking.

* Waiting for our turn to talk.

3. Avoid judgments.

Nearly all the reasons for not listening focus on our own ego and our inability to grant equal attention to another person. As soon as the person speaking is elevated to a pinnacle of importance, the active listening process begins and we weigh each thought mightily as if our lives depended on a total recitation of the prior narrative. As you fine tune your listening skills avoid listening only when you deem the speaker worthy of hearing.

4. Match your thought process to the speaker’s words.

We think and hear about 1.000 words per minute. The average speaking speed is 125 words per minute. What then do we do with the time lapse? Human nature combats the problem with anything from boredom to rudeness. Good listeners use the time to clarify, validate and reiterate the conversation topic in their mind. Listen for ideas and emotions rather than facts. Fact listening is defensive. Emotion listening is offensive. Idea listening is progressive.

5. Know thyself.

Do words like difficult, stupid, revolutionary, or assignments shut off your listening process? Does a reference to love, food or fun cause your ears to perk and your antenna to turn in? Understand where your hot and cold buttons are and adjust your listening process to circumvent any sudden shut down because of an emotion laden word or phrase. (This seems to me to be what happens with communication with husbands and wives. We allow too many words to become hot or cold buttons and therefore we render ourselves unable to really communicate)

6. Conversation always moves from agreement to disagreement and then stops. 

Listeners who are involved in two way conversation and are prepared to repeat and clarify information will immediately direct the conversation back to agreement and then reach an understanding.

7. Keep alert.

Listening shuts down when both apathy and anxiety set in. Strive for enthusiasm in listening. Communicate with you body; lean forward, smile, nod, become involved by maintaining direct eye contact. If you are on the telephone; stand up, walk. The more attentive and alert, the better you listen. Listening is an acquired skill that is critically important to success in life. Adults spend about 75% of each day in verbal communication. 45% of this time is spent listening. Persons in a business or social situation who do not have good listening skills are ineffective. Mistakes due to poor listening skills cost organizations thousands of dollars each year.

Listening to another is the highest form of building personal self esteem. For only when we feel good about ourselves and the world around us do we go beyond ‘waiting for our turn to talk’ or ‘watching someone else talk’ to ‘passionate’ listening that elevates us to pinnacles of thought and action separates us from animals making noise.

The greatest gift you can give another is the purity of your attention. – Richard Moss

A smile is the light in your face that lets others know your heart is at home.

Listening attentively to another is to pay the highest compliment to them.

You do not have to be witty to be a good conversationalist you simply have to know how to listen. The secret of being interesting is to be interested in the other person. Ask questions the other person will enjoy answering. Encourage them to talk about themselves. But don’t be the silent partner in the conversation.

Silence can be described as negative feedback. Like a failed monitoring system on a moon rocket, it tells you something is wrong, but it doesn’t go very far toward telling you what. “Respond to their questions and especially their comments that can open the emotional connection between you.

Conversation with your friends will indeed get sparse if you restrict yourselves to facts, but when you talk about your feelings there will always be plenty to discuss. It’s amazing the way a man listens to you. When you talk to him he looks you squarely in the eye.

He seems to shut out all other interests and hang on every word you utter. It is flattering to have someone give you that much of his attention. The eye lock is a powerful magnet for making contact with people. Look people squarely in the eye it is one of the surest indicators that you are interested in the other person.

Be careful not to give advice too quickly. Often people ask for advice when what they really want is for someone to listen to them. By listening to them you help them get the problem outside of themselves and on the table between you, the issues become clear and they are able to arrive at their own decision.

When people confide in you they are often afraid they have said too much. They will be watching you to see if you raise your brows or appear to have lost confidence in them. It is important to alley those fears by not over reacting to what has been said. To put them at ease compliment them on being able to share with you. By all means don’t reveal anyone’s private matters. When you tell something told to you in confidence you identify yourself as an untrustworthy confidant. So the way to be a confidant is to let no one know that you are a confidant to others.

That which is in the well of the heart is bound to come up in the bucket of speech.

You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view. Harper Lee – To Kill a Mockingbird

Seek first to understand and then to be understood. Most people do not listen with the intent to understand: they listen with the intent to reply. They’re filtering everything through their own paradigm, reading their autobiography into other people’s lives. The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People – Covey

What is Emotional Intelligence and why it’s important

Have you ever wondered to yourself why people do the things they do or say the things they say? Have you ever met someone who was constantly negative or complained about anything and everything? Have you ever wished you could of handled a situation better than you did? We all have! A lot of our success or failure in life is due to something called “Emotional Intelligence”.

I like to consider myself , what Chris Brady calls, a “Prodigious noticer”.  I find it interesting, sometimes comical, sometimes disturbing, to watch people’s reactions and interactions with situations and others around them.  Whether it be close family members, people at work or those you meet for the first time, it seems even the most intelligent (IQ) people struggle in Life simply because they lack Emotional Intelligence.  I know that in my professional and personal life, one of the main things I try to work on every day is to increase my EQ.  Thanks to LIFE and all of the great, successful people I get to associate with, I have learned how important this one attribute is towards a happy, successful professional and personal life. This attribute, EQ, is essential as a leader.

Ok, so What is Emotional Intelligence?  Emotional Intelligence as defined by Wikipedia is:  (EI or EQ) is the ability to identify, assess, and control the emotions of oneself, of others, and of groups.

One of my favorite books, Emotional Intelligence, by Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves, truly captures the essence of how important it is to deal with not only your own emotions, but of those you interact with on a daily basis.

What everyone needs to know.
Emotional Intelligence Is the Other Kind of Smart.

When Emotional Intelligence (EQ) first garnered significant media attention back in the 1990s, it really hit home for people. For the first time we all had an explanation for an unusual finding: people of average intelligence outperform people with the highest levels of intelligence the vast majority of the time (70% to be exact). Suddenly we had a name for the main determinant of success in life: emotional intelligence.

Emotional intelligence is critical to managing your behavior, moving smoothly through social situations, and making critical choices in life. There are four emotional intelligence skills and they group under two primary competencies: personal competence and social competence.

  • Self-Awareness is how accurately you can identify your emotions in the moment and understand your tendencies across time and situation.
  • Self-Management is how you use awareness of your emotions to create the behavior that you want.
  • Social Awareness is how well you read the emotions of other people.
  • Relationship Management is how you use the first three emotional intelligence skills to manage your interactions with other people.

Emotional Intelligence (EQ), Intelligence (IQ), and Personality Are Not Connected.

The three do not go together in any meaningful way. Emotional intelligence explains a fundamental element of your behavior that is unique from your intellect. You cannot determine someone’s IQ based on their EQ and vice versa. Intelligence is how quickly you absorb new information and it does not change throughout your life. Emotional intelligence is unique because it is a flexible skill that you can improve with practice. Anyone can develop a high degree of emotional intelligence.

Like IQ, your personality does not change. Personality is the style with which you approach the world: what motivates you and the people and situations that give you energy (versus those that drain it). One example of this is the tendency we all have to be introverted or extroverted.

 
Emotional Intelligence Dictates Performance.

Emotional intelligence has a massive impact upon personal and professional success. TalentSmart has measured the EQ of close to a million people now and we find that this skill accounts for 58% of performance in all types of jobs. Emotions are the primary driver of our behavior. Working to improve your emotional intelligence results in improvements in many areas of your behavior. We’ve found that more than 90% of top performers have high EQs.

High EQ individuals make $29,000 more on average than those with low EQs and every point you add to your EQ adds $1,300 to your annual salary.

Emotional Intelligence Can Be Increased With Practice

Your brain is hard-wired to give emotions the upper hand. The limbic system (the emotional brain) reacts to events first before we have the opportunity to engage the rational brain. The communication between these two areas of the brain is the very definition of emotional intelligence. EQ requires effective communication between the rational and emotional centers of the brain.

“Plasticity” is the term used to describe the brain’s ability to grow new connections between neurons that facilitates the use of new behaviors. Your brain loves efficiency: the skills you practice are the skills your brain will make it easier for you to repeat. When you work to increase your EQ, the billions of microscopic neurons lining the road between the rational and emotional centers of your brain branch off small “arms” to communicate with the cells around them. A single cell can grow upwards of 10,000 connections to the cells around it.

In a separate article written by Dr Travis Bradberry, the author of Emotional Intelligence 2.0, he explains how a lack of Emotional Intelligence, negativity and complaining can literally rot the brain.

Rodent studies have long shown that stress can have a lasting, negative impact on the brain. Exposure to even a few days of stress compromises the effectiveness of the neurons in the hippocampus—an important area of the brain responsible for reasoning and memory. Weeks of stress cause reversible damage to neuronal dendrites (the small “arms” that neurons use to communicate with each other), and months of stress can permanently destroy neurons.

Stress is a formidable threat for those of us who want to think clearly, reason effectively, and have a decent memory.

Most sources of stress are easy to identify. If your non-profit is waiting to land a grant that your organization needs to function, or you are working on the biggest project of your career, you’re bound to feel stress, but the unexpected sources of stress are the ones that can take you by surprise and harm your brain.

Recent research from the Department of Biological and Clinical Psychology at Friedrich Schiller University in Germany found that exposure to negative emotional stimuli—the same kind of exposure you get in the presence of complainers and otherwise negative people—caused subjects’ brains to have the same emotional reactions that they experienced when stressed. Your brain gets sucked into a negative emotional state when exposed to negative people, and—just like a stress response—the longer you endure this state the worse it is for your brain.

Here are some strategies that author Bradberry suggests:

1. Set Limits with Complainers

Complainers are bad news because they wallow in their problems and fail to focus on solutions. They want people to join their pity party so that they can feel better about themselves. People often feel pressure to listen to complainers because they don’t want to be seen as callous or rude, but there’s a fine line between lending a sympathetic ear and getting sucked into their negative emotional spiral. You can avoid this only by setting limits and distancing yourself when necessary. Think of it this way: if the complainer were smoking, would you sit there all afternoon inhaling the second-hand smoke? You’d distance yourself, and you should do the same with complainers. A great way to set limits is to ask complainers how they intend to fix the problem. They will either quiet down or redirect the conversation in a productive direction.

2. Squash the Negative Self-Talk

Sometimes you absorb the negativity of other people, and other times you create it for yourself. There’s nothing wrong with feeling bad about something, but your self-talk (the thoughts you have about your feelings) can either magnify the negativity or help you move past it. Negative self-talk is unrealistic, unnecessary, and self-defeating. It sends you into a downward emotional spiral that is difficult to pull out of. You should avoid negative self-talk at all costs. Be wary of the following two types of negative self-talk in particular and try the alternatives:

  1. Turn I always or I never into just this time or sometimes.Your actions are unique to that particular situation, no matter how often you think you mess up. Make certain your thoughts follow suit. When you start treating each situation as its own animal and stop beating yourself up over every mistake, you’ll stop making your problems bigger than they really are.
  2. Replace judgmental statements like I’m an idiot with factual ones like I made a mistake. Thoughts that attach a permanent label to you leave no room for improvement. Factual statements are objective and situational, and help you focus on what you can change.

3. Quit Focusing on Problems—Focus on Solutions

Where you focus your attention determines your emotional state. When you fixate on the problems you’re facing, you create and prolong negative emotions and stress. When you focus on actions to better yourself and your circumstances, you create a sense of personal efficacy that produces positive emotions.

4. Get Some Sleep

A good night’s sleep makes you more positive, creative, and proactive in your approach to problems. Being well rested helps you deal with your own negativity, and gives you the perspective you need to set limits with complainers and negative people.

There’s a reason the squeaky wheel gets the grease—complainers are hard to ignore. Whether you or they are the source of your stress, apply the strategies above, and you’ll remove the power that complaining and negativity hold over you.

I hope this information helps.  My life has dramatically improved over the last 6 years as a direct result of information provided thru LIFE. Anyone can achieve what they focus on.  You will be amazed what you can achieve when you apply the right information over time.  The key is to learn on a regular basis, with the intent of improving in the area you desire.  All of us can benefit from learning success principles, many of which were never taught in school or purposely learned in life. LIFE provides a great resource and place to learn and grow in multiple areas of our lives.  All my thanks go to this incredible resource along with all the great leaders who made LIFE possible. Lead on and have a great day!

Ben

Top 10 realities of success

Hello everyone,

I couldn’t pass up the chance to share this great insightful post from Chris Brady on the realities of success. This says it all. I hope you gain wisdom from this.

Ben

Top 10 Realities of Success

It doesn’t always go the way you want, and it doesn’t always go the way it should, but it does always go. Success isn’t easy, easily explained, or entirely predictable. Anyone who tries to paint too clear of a picture of their success is being a little misleading, albeit perhaps unknowingly.

Here’s the thing: it’s true that success is hard, but failure is hard, too. The choice is where you choose to have your “hard.” Do you want the “hard” of self-discipline or the “hard” of the consequences of failure?

And here’s another thing: success usually goes to the crazy.

That’s right, the crazy. Those who are whacked enough to believe they can achieve something, stubborn enough to stick with it, and dogged enough not to cave in to excuses and the lure of lesser things. Remember, it’s people who actually believe they can change the world who actually do!

So for the crazies out there, here’s an honest look at the jagged journey to your dreams. It’s not littered with rose pedals and candy, that’s for sure, but it is one of the most rewarding journeys upon which you could ever embark.

Here are the Top 10 Realities of Success:

10. You will work your butt off – there is no definition of true success that doesn’t also include the concept of earning it. Expect it.

9. You will feel like a dork – you cannot accomplish uncommon things without doing uncommon things. Automatically, that sets you apart from the safety of the crowd, and you will feel that distance.

8. You will run into knuckleheads – this one was the biggest shocker to me. Everyone isn’t nice, kind, or encouraging. Prepare for a few knives in the back. The uniform of leadership is thick skin.

7. You will doubt yourself – if you don’t feel multiple times along the way like you’ve lost your mind, you’re probably not on the road to making it.

6. You will have reversals – failures aren’t fatal if you don’t let them be final. Get up and get going again. More adventures await the resilient.

5. Someone will preach to you – folks will come from everywhere to thrust their opinions and concerns upon you. Smile, nod, and go about your business. It’s your life. Remember, no guts, no story.

4. You will have to make a million unforseen adjustments – don’t get too concerned about the path, it will turn and twist more than you can imagine starting out. That’s normal. Bob and weave as necessary, but keep your eyes fixed upon the prize.

3. You will compare yourself to others – it will be a natural instinct to look around and assume others have it easier, better, or whatever. They don’t. God knows what he’s doing even if you don’t. Look to Him, not to them.

2. You will get frustrated by a lack of progress -frustration to an achiever is like that pesky neighborhood kid you can’t move away from. You don’t have to like it, but you do have to learn to deal with it on a regular basis.

1. “They” will call you lucky – I promise. No matter what you achieve, someone will explain it away by labeling it luck. At least I told you this up front. And for that, you’re lucky.

The good news, however, is that for each one of these truths about success, the reverse is also true.

10. BUT it won’t feel like work after a while because you’ll love it.

9. BUT if you stick with it you’ll eventually feel like a champion.

8. BUT you will meet some of the dearest people, too.

7. BUT you will grow to respect yourself.

6. BUT you will also have advances.

5. BUT someone will learn from you.

4. BUT you will accomplish a main vision (or two or three).

3. BUT others will compare themselves to you.

2. BUT you will become encouraged by progress.

1. You’ll know you earned it (mostly).

Now get moving, your destiny awaits!

Sincerely,

Chris Brady

Leadership thoughts on Mental Toughness

Here is a great article I came across just recently from Policy Council and LIFE founder, Tim Marks.  This post talks about Developing Mental Toughness, something all of us should strive for in business and in life.  Mental toughness and Emotional Intelligence combined can help us endure the hard times and take advantage of the opportunities we are given.  Tim Marks is an amazing author and all the credit goes to him for this eye opening post.

Whether you are an athlete on the gridiron or in the boardroom, a certain quality is always found in the guys who remain standing when the storm winds blow.  When rejection hits these guys its bounces off them like spitballs off of a battleship.  They chuckle at groundless criticism.  They bounce back quickly from setbacks.  They feel energized to try even harder after a defeat.  That special quality these warriors are showing is something called “mental toughness”.  Wikipedia defines this as “a term commonly used by coaches, sport psychologists, sport commentators, and business leaders – generally describes a collection of attributes that allow a person to persevere through difficult circumstances (such as difficult training or difficult competitive situations in games) and emerge without losing confidence.” (Emphasis added.)

Each of us will receive a gut shot at some point in our lives that knocks the wind right out of us.  It’s not a matter of whether you will be struck by disaster, but when.  In my first book, Voyage of a Viking, I describe in detail many of the challenges I faced through my life.  I’ve faced my storms and I know that I have more storms awaiting me.  I also know that you do as well.  Rather than sitting around moaning and complaining when we are being pelted by chunks of hail the size of golf balls, we can put on a suit of armor to deflect whatever life throws as us.  That suit of armor is your mental toughness.

You can’t measure mental toughness; you measure its effect.  You can’t measure what’s going on inside a leaders head, but you sure can measure their behavior!  You see it when they lose their biggest customer one month, and it ticks them off just enough to go smash a sales record the next month.    You can see mental toughness when someone is running a marathon and they are gasping for breath, and the only thing keeping them putting one painful footstep in front of the next is their strength of will.  You see it when someone is totally exhausted, yet they keep throwing hundreds of shots into the basketball hoop to perfect their free throw (like my awesome daughter Mya!).  In fact, Mya had to make 1000 free throws; in order to reach that goal, she had to shoot a couple of thousand.   She wanted to quit many times during that experience, but she had committed to a number of people that she would reach her goal.  It’s amazing how a twelve year old girl will follow through on her committment more effectively than most adults.  Mental toughness is courage in action.  When you’ve got it, you cope better than your opponents with the demands you face.

How do we develop mental toughness?  Here are a few principles to get you started:

Principle #1: Realize Mental Toughness Can Be Developed.

Some people might be born with a certain personality, like a “Choleric” or “D” personality type, and maybe this personality type handles adversity a little more effectively than others.  But that’s not always the case, and either way, anyone can develop this side of their personality.  Don’t cop out on yourself by selling yourself any victim thinking, like “That’s just the way I am.”  Brothers and sisters, you can CHANGE.  How do you build mental toughness?  The same way you build muscles in the gym: by pushing yourself to new limits and increasing the pressure or resistance you are pushing against.

Principle #2: Mental Toughness in the Gym Correlates to Mental Toughness in LIFE.

The gym is the ultimate proving ground for “tough guys” and “tough gals”.  You really find out what you’re made of when you’re doing hack squats or leg extensions.  Most people get into the gym, start doing bicep curls, and as soon as it starts to get uncomfortable, they say, “Okay, I’ve done enough for now,” and they stop exercising.  This is actually the exact wrong thing to do, if your goal is to develop your muscles.  You see, when it starts to hurt, that’s the lactic acid burn in your muscles screaming, “Great job! Keep going!  You’re making progress!”  But when most people start to feel discomfort they choose to ease off.

You don’t become successful at anything by letting your foot off of the gas pedal when the going gets tough.  This includes the gym, your marriage, and your business.  When it hurts to do even one more rep of an exercise, that’s when the real muscle development starts!  (By the way, I’m not talking about pushing through pain when you are actually injured; I’m referring to the normal discomfort we feel when we are tearing down our muscles during a workout.)  If you throw in the towel on the bench press, you train your brain to quit when things get tough.  When you force yourself to keep pushing the weight even when you want to give up, you are training your brain to keep pushing.  Some people on my business team “run for the tape,” as my good friend andLaunching a Leadership Revolution bestselling co-author Chris Brady says.  That means that when there is a fast-approaching deadline to hit a business target, and things look grim, they keep pushing and fighting right up to the last minute!  They don’t give in just because it looks unlikely or difficult to accomplish… they pull a rabbit out of the hat by persevering despite all odds against them.

Principle #3: Champions Fall in Love with Discomfort

Winners know that the path to success is steep and rocky, and the path to defeat is like a sign pointing at a waterslide that says, “Slippery, Fun and Easy to Reach the Bottom in a Jiffy!”  Bad habits are easy to slip into, like a warm bed when you’re exhausted.  Good habits are pretty much guaranteed to feel tough for most people because you end up denying yourself luxuries and pleasures. You must learn to do what is uncomfortable for you. To develop the psychological edge, you must have extreme discipline to give up the comfort zone that you train and live in. Delaying immediate satisfaction is the ultimate sacrifice that all warriors must choose.

My mentor, New York Times bestselling author Orrin Woodward, recounted a story of arriving home one day in the wee hours of the morning.  He had been driving for hours from a business meeting, and had to get home to get to work the next day.  It was so early in the morning that he knew he would only get a few hours of sleep.  But Orrin’s viewpoint of this was a feeling of pride!  He actually said to himself, “I’m losing sleep!  I’m fighting harder to help my family than my neighbors, who are all getting a nice sleep right now!”  His brain normally connected feeling tired with unhappiness, and now his brain connected fatigue with a feeling of honor.  That’s what winners do!

RESOLVE to become a champion and develop mental toughness in your business, your health, your relationships and in LIFE!

What’s your Financial IQ?

Have you ever wondered why you can’t ever seem to get ahead financially? Are you looking to get out of debt but have a hard time making ends meet?  Are you worried about retirement and what your future holds?  Do you know what the future trends of our economy are and how to capitalize on them? Have you ever thought, there’s got to be a better way? You are not alone!

Today, we are in the information age. The rules of the game have changed.  Financial security has become more difficult based on today’s economics. What was painfully obvious, based on my results in life, was that what I thought I knew about money was not entirely true.  I violated every rule in the book and lived paycheck to paycheck, even after many years of hard work.

In retrospect, I realize that school never prepared or taught me about finances and unfortunately,  I never had solid role models in my life that understood solid financial principles.  I believe society is in trouble today because we only exemplify and preach what we learn and apply over time.

After plugging into some amazing information from LIFE, I learned that it’s never too late to change based on new information. The information contained on these Cd’s and books, were created by multi-millionaires who truly have results in life.  The founders of LIFE, Orrin Woodward and Chris Brady, among many other successful business entrepreneurs, have helped tens of thousands of individuals get out of debt and get their finances right based on the information they offer.  This information is vital for anyone, whether you are highly knowledgeable about money or simply looking to learn the basics.  Sometimes, being reminded of what we knew or have forgotten, can make a difference.

After learning some about the history of money, the what, why and how of finances, where we are and what to expect in the future, I realized how much I didn’t know.  As Chris Brady is fond of saying, “You don’t know what you don’t know, and what you do know sometimes just isn’t so.

Just like an Ostrich who buries its head in the sand, I overlooked the very things that could actually help me get out of the mess I was in.  One thing was for sure; Without the right information, knowledge and discipline, I would continue to struggle to make ends meet and live paycheck to paycheck. This information changed everything for me. When you apply the right principles and information to any given situation,  you can achieve significant positive results. The testimonies from others who loved the material are overwhelming!

I can honestly say that this information below changed my life forever. Try this information out.  It will inspire you, educate you, entertain you and most importantly, have a major impact on your life.  Get it here!

Maximize Your Finances and Today’s economy and your Money

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Three factors that set the course for success in LIFE

I picked out one of the many books in my library to read while on my overnight trip in Cancun, Mexico and came across a favorite of mine called, ” Leaders without borders“, by Doug Nickerson.

 This book is only a 100 pages long but it packs some powerful, thought-provoking teaching and ideas that can have a positive influence on you.  I’ve heard Co Founder of LIFE and best-selling author  Orrin Woodward say that “ideas have consequences”, so I wanted to share three “factors” from the book to help set the course for success in LIFE and in your leadership journey.

#1 The factor of a positive response You are in command of your response. Henry Van Dyke said, ” There is no personal charm so great as the charm of a cheerful temperament.”  As a leader, you set the tone not only for yourself  but for your organization by the way you react to the things that happen to you.

A positive response is not a willful denial of the reality that exists.  Your response, however, reflects the realization that whatever happened is only a snapshot of one moment in the larger picture of your destiny.  When you choose not to be defined by one negative moment, but rather re-define it for good, you have chosen a positive response.

#2 The factor of a positive attitudeI like Herm Albright’s  lighthearted observation: ” A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort”  A positive attitude in the midst of negative circumstances is exactly the right prescription to turn things around.

While certainly no one can deny that Thomas Edison was a man of accomplishment, he also suffered great setbacks.  Yet Edison said, ” I never did a day’s work in all my life, it was all fun.”  What a great attitude. The right attitude propelled him to unimaginable accomplishment, and it can do the same for you.

#3 The factor of positive perseverance- When you choose a positive response to negative circumstances, you begin to experience exponential growth as a leader.  Your reactions, positive or negative, set in motion the laws of reciprocity.  The choices you make have  a great impact.

Emerson said, ” That which we persist in doing becomes easier, not that the task itself has become easier, but that our ability to perform it has become easier”. Your reaction as a leader is charting a course for your future, so choose it wisely.

Some last thoughts. When it comes to your life and your business, what does your face say about you? Are you an optimist or a pessimist? A strong leader is one who does not shy away from reality , but looks through the lens of optimism when faced with challenges.

An optimistic leader confronts his fears

An optimistic leader gives others confidence

An optimistic leader looks for the good in all situations

An optimistic leader will certainly have moments of being tested

Doug Nickerson says,  “the next time things go haywire,  just remember that you are not alone. When times are tough and adversity strikes, let your confident words be,” I believe this is going to be our finest hour.”

Optimism does not prevent difficulties or make you immune from them.  Optimism, however, empowers you to face difficulties with a confidence that gives you an advantage to overcome them.

Robert L Stevenson said, ” You cannot run away from weakness; you must sometime fight it out or perish; and if that be so, why not now, and where do you stand? Now is the time to rise up with courage and be the optimistic leader you were destined to be.

This great book is an example of not only great teaching on the key principles of success but a great reminder of the factors we once knew but don’t apply on a regular basis.  Listening to one CD or attending one meeting does not build habits.  It takes little bits of information, energy, effort and application over time, to experience full results.  We cannot change our destination overnight, but we can change our direction.  The journey is certainly worth the destination.

Plugging into leadership training  and personal development material from LIFE over the last 5 years, has been one of the best things I have ever done, not only for me and my family, but for many others looking to Live the Life they’ve always wanted.

Lead on and may the wind be at your back.

Ben

LIFE Business Compensation Plan

Claude Hamilton, one of the Founders of LIFE and the new 90 day Mental Fitness Challenge, wrote a blog post on the LIFE Compensation Plan. This is a complete breakdown of the compensation available to business owners of LIFE.  It is mind-blowing to see how successful this has been thanks to a business model that works.

Personally, I have never seen a company do what LIFE has done with compensating communities of people who are looking to improve, help others and make significant positive changes in life. This is truly a purpose with a business wrapped around it vs it being a business with a purpose. There are reasons most business models fail to go from good to great. There’s a reason a good percentage of people never make any money and a reason why most automatically think scam or pyramid, when they come across any business. Its because 90+% of business models make it extremely difficult to prosper. ALL OF THAT HAS CHANGED, based on the LIFE business and the LIFE Compensation Plan . For years now, Orrin Woodward and Chris Brady have striven to change and fix what was broken in the industry and it took every bit of 18 years of success to bring the LIFE business to us today.  What LIFE is doing, has never been done in business history.

Orrin Woodward is a whistle blower because the facts and the truth are all that matter. The truth is that there are companies and individuals out there in business that refuse to change, who look to line it’s pockets at the expense of others. To get the facts and the truth straight, Dan Hawkins reveals some interesting information about business. Very Interesting indeed.

In my experience, the LIFE Compensation Plan is the best compensation plan out there and the rewards are incredible.  There is no comparison.  All of us get into business to make money.  I can honestly say that for those struggling or looking for more in life, including better finances, you will get way more than you bargained for.   As Orrin and Chris have said, “The LIFE Company was not designed to make a lot of money but to PAY OUT a lot of money”.  Just look at all the testimonies about LIFE. Certainly you will make money but just as I soon realized, LIFE’s mission is to tangibly change a million lives in a positive way.

LIFE focuses on helping people in the areas of their life that matter the most.  If the end result of this business is a better marriage, better Faith life, better finances, becoming a better parent, a better friend, having a better attitude, learning more about business, leadership and having emotional intelligence, plus so much more, then I am all in. The compensation plan is a huge bonus in addition to all that and was genius by design, allowing anyone to prosper and benefit for doing the right thing, which is learn and grow ourselves and helping others.

Many thanks to Orrin Woodward and Chris Brady, and the rest of the Policy Council at LIFE, with a special thanks to our business partners Terry Franks and Claude Hamilton.  These amazing men and women of character and integrity are launching a Leadership Revolution and helping tens of thousands  of people live the life they’ve always wanted.

God Bless,

Ben

Resolved to Change

Resolved to Change

Here is a great video by Orrin Woodward, #6 Top leadership guru on the planet- This is a powerful talk about resolving to change for a better life.

This talk was based on the book Resolved- 13 Resolutions for LIFE. The 13 resolutions are: Purpose, Character, Attitude, vision, Plan and DO, Scoreboard, Friendship, Finances, Leadership, Conflict Resolution, Systems, Adversity Quotient, Legacy

This is an amazing book that challenges the mind, teaches, inspires and focuses on taking you through a journey to becoming the best version of you that could possible be.  This book is what the 90 day Mental Fitness Challenge  was based upon.

Going from ‘Good to Great’ with the 90 day Mental Fitness Challenge

Author Jim Collin’s wrote a best-selling book called, “Good to Great”, where he reveals many of the factors that determine the long-term success or failure of a business or corporation.  Through his exhaustive research and analysis of facts and data, there are some key revelations why some companies triumph and achieve long-term sustained success and others fail.  One of the key reasons according to Collins is because ‘good is the enemy of great’.  Collins says most individuals and companies that fail, do so because they are comfortable and happy with their current situation, good or bad.  A lot of businesses settle for good and never aspire to be great.  Mr Collins writes, “That good is the enemy of great is not just a business problem.  Its a human problem.  As we seek to understand the differences between good and great, between excellent and mediocre, I believe it comes down to the individual.  It comes down to a choice and how we think. It’s a matter of conscious thought.

Ironically enough, the first chapter of “Good to Great”, references Level 5 leadership and what a significant impact leadership had on those companies that achieved greatness.  Since the leadership/personal development industry is roughly a 400 billion dollar industry, clearly going from ‘Good to Great’  involves applying the right principles and practices of success and leadership over time and doing what is necessary to get the job done. We may not understand fully what leadership is but we certainly know,see and feel what a lack of leadership is.  We see it in our Governments, unions, Churches, schools and homes all across the globe.

   Orrin Woodward, best-selling author of multiple books including Launching a Leadership Revolution and Resolved-13 resolutions for LIFE, #6 Leadership guru on the planet,  and the founder of LIFE -Living Intentionally For Excellence Inc., has not only achieved amazing personal success, but has also taught thousands of others the principles of  success, leadership and the importance of personal development.  The question is, as a business owner, employer or employee, how valuable, profitable or significant would it be to have leadership/personal development training integrated into your business or personal life?  The testimonies are overwhelming.

What the New 90 day Mental Fitness Challenge and the LIFE/LLR ( leadership training ) is doing today is leveraging the best minds of our time to provide the right information to individuals and corporations looking to improve and excel.  In order to go from good to great and achieve results, it all comes down to helping and empowering the individual to embark on a journey of leadership training and personal growth.

If you are a business owner, employee or just an individual looking to live the life you’ve always wanted, what the Mental Fitness Challenge can do help identify and teach what is necessary for success.  Imagine an employee or employer with a better attitude, better people skills, higher level of character and integrity, better conflict resolution skills,  deeper sense of purpose, greater knowledge of systems thinking or business in general.  All of these traits and more can and will ultimately lead to better business,  profits and productivity.

The greatest part I have seen is that the Mental Fitness Challenge has been engineered and developed by an amazing group of men and women, all with overwhelming results in life.  None of these individuals pontificate from on high or just write about success.  They are all actively out in society developing other leaders, something the world is sorely lacking today. With over 18 years of teaching and success in the business world and a mission to help millions of people learn, grow and get better, the impact of LIFE goes beyond measure.  The founders of LIFE and the Mental Fitness Challenge have made it their legacy to spread leadership and teach timeless principles and practices to the masses, and do it in a fun, affordable way.  Customers can share the Mental Fitness Challenge with others and get reimbursed for the cost of their Package.  That alone is amazing.

The Mental Fitness Challenge can help teach what was never taught or emphasized in school, even at the college level. The Mental Fitness Challenge can help maintain high levels of performance over time which is key.  This material is of the highest quality, most competitive cost in the world.  There are countless schools, Real Estate companies, Lawyers offices, churches and other business organizations implementing this material.  It is in demand all across the globe, thanks to the Gentlemen and Ladies that represent the best leadership service provider in the world.  The best investment anyone can make is in their brain.  Proper thinking and information from the right source can and will lead to the right results, offer immeasurable success in your professional and personal life and take you from Good to Great in whatever endeavor you pursue.  Are you ready to take the Challenge?

God Bless,

Ben and Tanya

I wish I knew that as a child!

I remember my first flight when I was 9 years old like it was yesterday. My brother Marc took me flying in a multi-engine airplane over the south shore of Long Island, NY. I knew I wanted to fly airplanes ever since that day. I am fortunate to say I had a path and the right influences and mentorship in my life.

As my aviation journey began, I remember going off to the book store and reading and learning everything I possibly could about airplanes.  I wasn’t able to get my pilot’s license yet but was actively dreaming about my future.   Somewhere in my studies, I remember coming across a book that intrigued me.  It was not an aviation book, but rather a self-help book, something that I certainly didn’t think I needed at that time. Ironically enough, I read it behind closed doors and this single book actually had a profound effect on my attitude and life.  I found this book not too long ago in my library and started to thumb through it. It was definitely written with Kids and younger adults in mind but everything in there applies to adults even today. Ive come to learn that success comes from the proper thinking which leads to actions and results. Again, having a coach, guide or mentor, plays a major role in developing the right thinking and habits that are necessary for long term success in any endeavor.

Well, it got me thinking. The title of the book is LIFE 101, Everything we wish we had learned in school but didn’t.. Years later, I wish I truly spent more time learning the things that truly matter in life, things school never taught, and doesn’t to this day. Although things worked out, there are a lot of things I would have done differently, like plug into this type of information on a regular basis.

Fast forward to today. We are so blessed to say that we have our hands on the best personal development system on the planet. LIFE, has changed countless lives because it provides world-class information, leadership training and personal development programs from successful people with results in life who teach the things that truly matter.

For Instance, LIFE offers a series for young adults called the EDGE series, which provides audio talks and books to help children and teenagers learn about success and the importance of personal development. The EDGE series is amazing. If you have children and understand that this material is designed to help them at an early age, then this is a fantastic series to plug them into. We love it.

 What a great investment in our children. They are our future!

Here is what the EDGE series is:

“If I only knew then what I know right now!” How many older people have had these types of thoughts? If the principles of success and winning could be learned at any age, why do so many people not learn them until much later in life, if at all? Why shouldn’t the principles of massive success be available to anyone at any age? After all, there is no age limit on success!

That’s what the EDGE series is all about! Designed especially for those on the younger side of life, it is a hard-core, no frills approach to learning the things that will make for a successful life. You will laugh, you will cry, you will totally have fun. Featuring successful businessmen and women, authors, entrepreneurs, and even professional athletes who deliver true stories of success, the EDGE series will give anyone a head start on living a happy, fulfilling, successful, and meaningful life.

Eliminate the noise around you about what you are and who you should become. Instead, figure it out for yourself in a mighty way with life-changing information from people who would do just about anything to have learned these truths much, much sooner in life! It may have taken them a lifetime to discover these truths, but what they learned can be yours now on a monthly basis.

What can the Mental Fitness Challenge do for You?

The Mental Fitness Challenge has been out for 16 days now and it has gone viral. Orrin Woodward and Chris Brady have hit a home run with this LIFE changing Personal Development Program. It was designed to help educate and change people’s thinking and provide a measurable way to see massive improvements in any of the areas that truly matter in our lives.

After taking a Pre-Self assessment test and establishing a base line of where you are, you embark on a 90 day challenge to learn, grow and get better in any or all areas of our lives. The testimony and feedback so far has been amazing. Claude Hamilton, one of the founders of LIFE and The Mental Fitness Challenge, has posted a lot of this testimony on his blog.

The best investment you can make is in your brain.  A lot of us spend time working out and getting physically fit but not all of us have a plan to get and stay Mentally Fit.  Since the body always follows the mind, this Challenge will radically change your thinking and the results in your life, whether it be a better marriage, becoming a better parent, having better finances, having a stronger faith life, developing closer friends, having a higher purpose or all the above.  There are those who have experienced  a major transformation in the results in their lives.  I am one of them!

Watch the video and take the Challenge here!

God Bless,

Ben and Tanya

An exciting post from Claude Hamilton, LIFE Founder, Mentor & Friend

Hey everyone,

Here is a great post from our Mentor Claude Hamilton about the new mental Fitness Challenge that just rolled out last weekend during our Spring Leadership Conference. In such a short time, the Mental Fitness Challenge has gone viral, and has already been purchased by thosands of people in just over 3 days!  We are excited about our future and so thankful for the Policy Council and all the hard work that has gone into developing the absolute best Leadership/ Personal Development material on the planet.  From a business aspect, not only do we have our hands on something amazing, we are at the right place, at the right time, with the right people, doing the right things for the right reasons.  Take the Mental Fitness Challenge and ask yourself if you would like to live the life you’ve always wanted.  LIFE is the vehicle to get all of us there.  God Bless.

Take the Mental Fitness Challenge!

by claudehamilton

I recently drove the coach home from Columbus, Ohio where LIFE launched our flagship product, the Mental Fitness Challenge.  I plan to blog about this often, as I am very excited about the positive results that it can have in people’s lives. Our “product” in LIFE isn’t necessarily the CD’s and books and the seminars, it’s really about the results that come with utilizing these tools that can change your life.

We cannot change the world until we change ourselves first. The product of the LIFE opportunity is providing you with the necessary tools to improving your relationships, becoming a better parent, increasing your faith or providing financial literacy.  The LIFE products provide the tools to change yourself for the better so that you can live the life you always wanted.  Personally, I have already contacted a few friends and family members interested in purchasing a MFC.  It’s funny that just by doing the self-assessment test, they have already identified certain areas in their lives that they want to change and improve on.

We are still learning about how best to use the Mental Fitness Challenge in our business but the first step is for us all to complete the challenge for ourselves. Chris Brady and Orrin Woodward have written some great blog posts about the Mental Fitness Challenge and I encourage you to read them ASAP.  You won’t be disappointed!

I will be posting again very soon on the amazing trip programs that LIFE has recently launched as well as the adding of points to opens, and soon seminars!  There is so much happening and I know many of you are exploding your communities.  I am very proud to be in business with all of you!

Claude

Take the Mental Fitness Challenge

Living the LIFE you’ve always wanted using the Mental Fitness Challenge!

Click here to take the challenge

The Mental Fitness Challenge is a program designed to give you the life you’ve always wanted through better thinking and better association. You see, it will never be a better product, piece of equipment, or the latest craze that changes you, only your thinking can do that!

You can read thousands of quotes from successful people all stating that the key to success is learning better ideas and applying them in your life. This MFC program is designed to give you the thinking it takes to succeed in any area you chose to improve. Maybe you want to lose weight, be a better parent or spouse, or maybe improve you financial situation. The key to better results are better ideas!

Here is a short summary of the Mental Fitness Challenge from best selling author Chris Brady:

What is it? A life-changing package of information, including three best-selling books, a bunch of CDs, an online environment for tracking progress, a video library which accumulates for future viewing as videos stream in through email on a regular basis, a self-assessment test, unlimited 360 feedback, accountability partners, goal and tracking sheets, and more! This product encompasses years and years of learning how people change and maximize in their lives in all the 13 areas of resolutions from Orrin Woodward’s best seller RESOLVED.

Life Compensation Plan by Chris Brady

Chris posted a great article today..

Life Compensation Plan

When the LIFE company was established, one of the primary goals of its founders was to accomplish something in the area of compensation that hadn’t been done before. The heart behind this was to offer financial rewards that would truly be based upon performance. But there was more. It was also desired to put a heavy emphasis on revenue sharing with the field – this is “corporate speak” for not letting the company keep most of the profits.

While many (but certainly not all!) pay plans appear to be at least somewhat fair in terms of how the money is split amongst participants in the field, what often is NOT fair is how much money finds it way back to the corporation. The result is a subtle but real conflict of interest between the company and its field operators. Therefore, right off the bat, LIFE designed its financial plan in such a way that most of its profits flow to the people who are actually doing the work to make the revenue happen in the first place. Right out of the gate, the percentage of gross revenue paid back to the field in commissions was structured to be in the (estimated) 65+% range. This, as far as we know, is an industry high. Then, after just two months in business, LIFE announced its One Time Cash Award program, which put even more money into the field. It is still too soon to know the exact figures (as some of the qualification periods for these rewards don’t end until the end of 2012), but we believe this will put the percentage at something approaching 70%.

How can this be done? How can a group of founders establish a company on such lean terms? The answer comes from the strong belief that the best leadership for this type of company can be provided by those who are actually doing what they are teaching and expecting others to do. THIS, as far as we know, has never been done before: corporate founders who deliberately establish the financial incentives in such a way as to keep themselves in the game, out in the trenches, and thereby providing the means by which most of the profits flow to the field.

And now there’s more. On April 27th, at the Spring Leadership Convention in Columbus, Ohio, LIFE will announce an additional incentive program representing even more new money being put into the compensation program. This will be a reward package that will be attractive to new participants and attainable early in their experience with the business – in other words, something they can qualify for in the near-term, not “someday.”

All of this, in the LIFE compensation plan, is in addition to LIFE’s groundbreaking position between the four industries of Personal Development, Home-based Businesses, Life coaching, and Community building, and takes advantage of LIFE’s high-value position in the market of personal development materials, wherein its products are among the lowest priced in the marketplace (in some cases hundreds of percent cheaper than its competition). And, don’t forget, all of LIFE’s products are backed with a 30 day money back guarantee.

When LIFE founder Orrin Woodward says, “We don’t promise easy, but we do promise worth it!” the LIFE founders have done their best to structure a compensation plan and reward system that shows his statement to be much more than mere rhetoric.

I hope this helps!

Sincerely,

Chris Brady

LIFE: TEAM Growth hits new levels

Here is a great excerpt from Orrin Woodward’s blog that exemplifies where we are and where we are going with LIFE.  This is 18 years in the making.  There has never been a better time to be part of history in progress.

In studying LIFE and the teams associated with this industry changing concept, one notices how simple the business is. Read, listen, and associate with leaders and receive compensation for sharing the materials with others. Think about how revolutionary that is. First, you share life-changing information that impacts people’s lives. Second, a $50 dollar subscription produces 50 points and a $100 dollar subscription produces 100 points. However, the coup-de-grace, as they say, is the LIFE Business Compensation Plan pays out nearly 70% on the points accumulated monthly.

The granddaddy’s of the industry pay our around 33%; the top companies pay out 50%; so how does LIFE pay out 70%? LIFE builds teams or communities across the country and because its a digital model, the cost structures allow a ridiculous amount of compensation back to the communities. Compensated communities are the future of leadership training and the LIFE Business is leading the way.

Here are some simple observable facts to remember:

1. With 70% paid back to field leaders, there are more people receiving bonuses equal to or higher than their purchases in LIFE than any other community building business. The math is simple when 50% of the points are paid back on the first bonus alone. Nearly 95%, practically everybody, receives a bonus from LIFE.

2. LIFE shares its product up front. In other words, LIFE is proud of its materials and freely shares the CDs, books, and meetings with others. If someone likes what they see, then they are free to be a customer or member. On the other hand, if someone doesn’t like what they see, then LIFE respects that they are not looking for life improvement at this time.

3. LIFE launched in November and already has over 3,000 customers. Customers are people who buy the material because they love the material without any thought or desire to build a community. This is a key factor in the over 20% of the people receiving bonuses from LIFE higher than their purchases. Typical community building pegs this number at less than 5%, but not with LIFE’s business model. The more customers, the more people are profitable. Every PC leader has more customers in LIFE than ever before in community-building.

4. LIFE is preparing Phase II with digital downloads for both books and CD’s available, plus points on attendance at leadership meetings. Think about this, where else do you receive points and bonuses for reading, listening, and attending to become a better person?

5. The other impressive factor with LIFE is the retention rates. Because people love the materials without compensation, the retention rates are easily double the community-building average. Why would people quit on a great product at a great price regardless of whether they are customers or members? This is great news for members because it’s easier to maintain a business with a high retention rate.

These are just five of the LIFE differences. Don’t take anyone’s word for it though. Check out the LIFE materials for yourself. When it comes to personal development, the proof is in the pudding. Either the CDs, books, and meetings will help you on your journey or they won’t. If they do, and you would like more out of life, why not join the compensated community. If they do, but you are happy pursuing your current career path, then sign up as a customer. If you don’t enjoy the materials, then as a free person, you can pass on the opportunity offered.

This is what LIFE is all about, the freedom to live your life and the responsibility to own the results.

Leadership principles and thoughts

Here is a great article written by the TEAM.  I thought it was worthy of re-posting because it exemplifies one of the key principles of success in business and in LIFE. Positive thoughts and a great attitude only come from applying the ‘Slight Edge’ principle which states that the little things we do over time is what determines our success.  Along the journey, on a day by day basis, we are bombarded with negativity, whether it be at work or at home.  Although we don’t always control what happens to us, the only thing we can control is how we respond and react to the things we cannot control.

This quick article references self talk.  Not only do we get bombarded by external forces, we all have a tendency to talk to ourselves, which influences how we think, act and respond.  The key is to have the right thinking which leads to positive self talk, positive thinking, positive actions and positive results. Thank Goodness for the cd’s, books and association of the TEAM and LIFE to help us on our journey. Enjoy.  Ben

Leadership thoughts and principles

We all face our own bouts with doubt and fear. Sometimes, the negative side of our brains can really give us a run for our money. When this happens, it helps to be able to “re-script” our self-talk. That’s one of the reasons that affirmations are such powerful things. Self-talk sets the stage for the thoughts, words and deeds that will follow. For every “I can’t”, there’s an “I can” with the power to get things done… 

If you’ve been wrangling with the dangers of negativity in your own life, here are some positive thoughts and principles that can revolutionize the way you’re looking at leadership…. 

Everyone is called upon to lead in some capacity sooner or later in life. 

Each of us has a natural well-spring of talent and ability buried within. 

“In a broad sense, what leaders do is stage revolutions.” Noel Tichy 

All big fires start with a tiny spark. 

Leadership is the influence of others in a productive, vision-driven direction and is done through the example, conviction and character of the leader. 

Leaders can’t stand to leave things the way they found them. 

Anybody can grow in their leadership ability. 

People make extraordinary things happen by liberating the leader within. 

Leadership is both Art and Science. 

Hunger for change and improvement is one of the biggest facets of leadership.

“We don’t determine our purpose, we detect it.” Victor Frankl 

Leaders must live in the realm of the important, not in the realm of the urgent.

Leaders must have a vision for where they want to take themselves and their organization. 

It is not what happens to you, it’s how you handle it. 

Leaders must take personal responsibility for their results. 

When one person takes responsibility for leadership, there is a ripple effect that cannot be measured. 

Goals must be clear. A leader cannot passionately pursue a generality. 

True leadership requires the ability to focus. 

Leaders know they always have more to learn. 

Leaders must grow personally. It is a fact of life for leaders that they must get better.

“Internal victories precede external victories.” Stephen Covey 

“A true leader inspires other to lead themselves.” Ari D. Kaplan 

The best education comes from those who have results in life. 

You don’t know what you don’t know. 

When the going gets tough, the tough get going. 

Success is always located on the other side of inconvenience. 

The only way to BE happy is to GIVE happy. 

Our privileges are not for our pleasure, but rather for our purpose. 

Leadership requires thick skin. 

Success comes when opportunity and preparedness meet. 

If you’re too big to follow then you’re too small to lead. 

People will buy into the leader before they will buy into his or her vision. 

Courage is not action devoid of fear; it is action in spite of fear. 

If you want a great team, you’ve got to find and develop great people. 

Great leaders learn to find a defeat in every victory and a victory in every defeat. 

Problems are much easier to kill when they are small. 

There are no shortcuts when it comes to relationships. 

Problems are the price of progress.

To have a high quality of life, we must have a high quality of thought. 

“Change that ignores the heart will seldom transform the life.” Paul David Tripp 

“The only way for evil to flourish is for good men to do nothing.” Edmund Burke 

When the weight of the world starts to drag you down, don’t despair. Just get busy and start building up your self-talk! Even leaders have rough times and hard days. Without the right fuel to get you through it, it’s easy to slip from Champ thinking to Chump thinking… 

When doubt strikes, strike back!

What is LIFE?

Here’s a new page on the LIFE site that describes what LIFE is.

 

What is LIFE?

LIFE is a company that specializes in producing personal development materials offered for sale through independent Life Members. One of the mainstays of the LIFE approach to personal growth is the development of communities that encourage people to improve their leadership, people skills, and other core competencies. The founders of LIFE have designed their learning programs to follow the principles consistent with long term high achievement, namely: small, affordable doses of information and truth learned and applied consistently over time. This is predominantly accomplished through the format of monthly subscriptions, which focus on the “8F’s:” the categories through which we live out our lives – Faith, Family, Finances, Fitness, Friends, Freedom, Following, and Fun.

Are the LIFE improvement materials credible?

LIFE is founded upon the teaching principles of Orrin Woodward and Chris Brady, co-authors of the NY Times, Wall Street Journal, USA Today, Money Magazine, Business Weekly best seller Launching a Leadership Revolution. Together they have numerous leadership and professional achievements including both qualifying for Top 15 Leadership Guru spots in the latest Top 30 Leadership Guru list. The LIFE improvement materials provided by the LIFE company have received accolades from individuals, business owners, educators, business consultants, other best selling authors, military leaders, leaders in elected government, and professional sports figures.

How competitive are the prices of LIFE’s materials?

The founding principle of LIFE is “Making a Difference.” For this reason, the pricing model for LIFE’s materials reflects the founders’ desire to maximize the impact of their information. Nearly any price comparison to materials of similar genre will demonstrate that LIFE’s materials are not only priced below the competition, but well below. As an example, below are the prices for each of the top three subscription packages available through LIFE:

  1. LIFE Series (Improved Life Skills), which includes 4 CDs and a book each month for $50.
  2. Leadership Series (Improved Leadership Skills), which includes 4 CDs and a book each month for $50.
  3. Faith Series (Spiritual Development), which includes 1 CD and a book each month for $25. (All corporate profits from this series go to our All Grace Outreach charity).

These subscription prices are anywhere from 20% to 200% cheaper than similar offerings from other providers.

What is the opportunity offered by LIFE?

LIFE offers members the opportunity to profit from the sale of LIFE’s materials through a competitive compensation plan. LIFE’s goal is to flow the money typically spent on marketing and advertising to the leaders who help build the customer base for LIFE materials. Further, the founders of LIFE are dedicated to serving in the field alongside LIFE members – a unique situation that enables the compensation structure to maintain as its chief consideration the flowing of profits to the field and not to corporate shareholders, investors, or other interested parties, as is true with most companies. What this means is the LIFE compensation plan can offer one of the highest margins in the industry, with a pay plan that provides 50% of sales on a graduated bonus chart, and additional bonuses (upwards of 15% at the time of this writing, with plans for more depending upon profitability) in additional bonuses for developing leaders in the field, all while keeping prices competitively low.

Additionally, money saving innovations are made available to customers of LIFE materials. The Three for Free Program allows customers or members who obtain subscriptions for LIFE materials to three or more other customers to qualify for a free product subscription for themselves.

Is there any business development training?

LIFE has partnered with TEAM, a top community building and training material organization, to provide all of its business development training. LIFE, in other words, provides world-class personal development materials at a remarkable price point. TEAM (with over a decade of experience with tens of thousands of people in several countries) provides leading-edge business development and training to assist LIFE members in building their businesses. Here is how the personal development and business development break down:k

  1. If a person desires to be a customer, then he or she signs up for one of the LIFE material subscriptions mentioned above.
  2. If a person desires to be a LIFE member (business builder), then he or she follows the same steps as a customer. However, on top of this, he or she also signs up in LIFE as a member ($35 LIFE membership and $50 business starter kit). As a member of LIFE, there are several different levels of participation.
    1. Simply become a member of LIFE and utilize the materials for one’s self and occasionally recommend LIFE materials to others.
    2. Become a member of LIFE but pursue the amassing of a large number of sales to take advantage of the aggressive pay plan.
    3. Become a member of LIFE, and in addition to generating sales of LIFE materials, also build a sales force (or team) that does the same thing.

    For any of these levels, the TEAM training system (business development training) is an optional assist in such efforts. It provides a supportive environment, specific training, mentoring, recognition, materials, events, and team-building activities, and can be utilized as much or as little as the LIFE member deems necessary.

How credible is the TEAM training system?

Both Chris Brady and Orrin Woodward have been showcased as keynote speakers at the prestigious MasterMind event, which features top leaders from the training world and is attended by participants from six continents. Additionally, both Brady and Woodward have been featured in Networking Times magazine, the leading trade magazine for the industry, and currently host a monthly column in the publication. They have also been featured in special editions of Success and Success from Home magazines. The other leaders comprising the TEAM’s Policy Council collectively have over 100 years experience in the industry and are in-demand speakers around North America. The TEAM’s training system operates under the motto: Have Fun, Make Money, and Make a Difference! Moreover, the TEAM is one of the few communities of its kind that routinely hosts tens of thousands of people at monthly events around the USA and Canada. The TEAM training system puts its money where its mouth is, guaranteeing a “no questions asked” 30 day money back refund policy. The TEAM wants satisfied business builders and works hard to ensure that satisfaction.

Is there a guarantee on LIFE materials?

Absolutely. Just as with the TEAM training system, LIFE offers a 30 day money back return policy on all its products

Orrin Woodward wins Top Leadership Award!

Orrin Woodward wins Top Leadership Award!

Independent Association of Businesses highlights the following category as the 2011 TOP LEADERSHIP AWARD WINNER!

The IAB Small Business Awards recognizes and awards businesses who achieve both qualitative and quantitave results in their organization. The leadership award is the highest award given among all 10 categories. This award applies to ones own leadership principals and how they help develop and influence successful leaders throughout American businesses.

 

 

The criteria for the IAB Awards winners includes,

– Originality of ideas
– Practicality of ideas
– Presentation style
– Testimonials
– Impact of ideas
– Quality of web content, publications and writings
– Ranking of website in America

The 2011 Top Leadership Website Award goes to:

Orrin Woodward : http://www.orrinwoodward.com/

Congratulations Orrin, we are proud to be associated with you!

LIFE’s Mission Statement

ImageHere is a great description of LIFE, what it’s purpose is and what amazing value it has in the lives of so many.

I am intrigued by all of the testimony available on the LIFE site.  I encourage everyone to submit their testimonies when possible.  The LIFE materials changed our lives in such a significant way that we cannot sometimes put into words.

We are so thankful for LIFE founders, Orrin Woodward, Chris Brady and the rest of the PC, for providing us all with an amazing, life changing, spectrum of materials and an opportunity to to “pay it forward” to others.  Everyone could use something LIFE has to offer, some could use everything LIFE has to offer in the areas of Faith, Family, Finances, Fitness, Freedom, Following, Friends and Fun (8f’s)

Revolutionize Your Life!

Everyone will be called upon to lead at some point (and truly several points) in their lives, the only question is: Will they be ready?

The LIFE business launched with the purpose of providing world-class leadership materials to business executives, entrepreneurs, corporate climbers, pastors, church leaders, administrators, community service leaders, public servants, teachers, parents, and anybody who will find themselves in a position to lead.

When it gets right down to it, leadership is for everyone. Nobody will be able to make their way through life without needing to draw upon the toolbox of leadership.  Sadly, many people lack these tools and therefore get to live with the consequences of being ill-equipped. These consequences include missed opportunities, unfulfilled career aspirations, financial woes, and broken relationships.

Although leadership is for everyone, not everyone will equip themselves. Therefore, it may be helpful to consider a list of people for which the LIFE materials don’t apply.  LIFE leadership training materials are NOT for those who:

1. Refuse to take 100% personal responsibility for their results in life.

2. Would rather fix blame than fix problems.

3. Want an easy, comfortable life without having to earn it.

4. Already know everything and are therefore unteachable.

5. Have character issues they refuse to address.

LIFE is for those who earnestly seek a better life, are interested in the strenuous process of personal growth, are driven to succeed in significant ways, and are committed to a life of excellence for a higher purpose.

Mediocrity is for the many.

Leadership is for the few.

Everyone will be called upon to lead – few will be ready.

The Slight Edge

The Slight EdgeThe Slight Edge, by Jeff Olson, is one of my favorite books in the system.  Mr. Olson updated the original version and I highly recommend everyone get their hands on the 2nd edition and go through it again and again. This book is on my night stand right next to the top 5 books!

Below is a quick description of the book for those who have not read it. It will help you in every area of your personal and professional life.

God Bless,

Ben

Overview

Why is it that some people make dream after dream come true, while others just continue dreaming and spend their lives building dreams for someone else? One simple reason: those that are “successful” have found their SLIGHT EDGE!

The Slight Edge is not just another self-help, motivation tool of methods you must learn in order to make it up the path of success. It simply shows you how to create powerful results from the simple daily activities of your life, by using tools that are already within you.

What do you need to make that happen? Discover that one thing that will help you achieve that goal, realize a life-long dream or propel you up the ladder to success.

Once you’ve got it, then you will discover how your philosophy… creates your attitude… creates your actions… creates your results… creates YOUR LIFE!

The Slight Edge is a way of thinking, a way of processing information that enables you to make the daily choices that will lead you to the success you desire. The Slight Edge is “the key” that will make all the other how-to books and self-help information that you read, watch and hear actually work.

LIFE and Leadership tidbits

I wanted to share some leadership thoughts to help everyone along  their journey in the LIFE business. In aviation, when you buy a ticket to go from point A to B, there are any number of potential obstacles or challenges  you may encounter before arriving at your destination. Anything from a bird strike to a mechanical problem or bad weather  can and will cancel the flight or at the very least, delay your departure and arrival.
We are so thankful to all of the Policy Council members, especially Orrin and Chris, for developing this amazing opportunity and system. We owe a lot to our personal mentors as well, Steve and Gia De Lorie, Terry and Ann Franks and Policy Council members Claude and Lana Hamilton. I dedicate this article to all of them. If it wasn’t for them, we would not be on the journey.
Whether you are a new business owner or a leader, here are some things to consider as you climb the ladder of success. It’s been said that this business is not easy but it is simple. The reason it’s simple on a big scale is because we have an amazing and unique opportunity, with a world-class system that guides us every step of the way. Fortunately for us, we have the correct Flight Plan, a systematic way to get you to your destination and the leadership to keep us on track. We are so blessed to have such amazing leaders to work with. Leadership is a journey, not a destination. The more I read, study and learn, the more I realize how much there is to know and improve on. Our team name is called the ” ROK”, or Rok of Kaizen. The Japanese word, “KAIZEN” in the dictionary means “continuous Improvement”. As we all learn, grow and improve on a daily basis, focus on our priorities, set goals and follow the system, this business will work, provided we work it.
Most of the challenges we have encountered over the last few years, all required a continuous application of timeless principles, mentoring with up-line and a discipline to follow the system on a consistent basis, to overcome them. It takes persistence, motivation, dedication, the hunger to get better and a discipline to develop tough skin, all while maintaining a soft heart. Of course, you must have a big dream. As Kirk Birtles is fond of saying, ” Your vision has to be bigger than your reality.” It is so true that we all need a reason or a “WHY” to do this business, otherwise obstacles, critics and Life’s distractions will get in the way.
There are many who are exploding their business and others who stay for a season and quit. What’s the difference? As written many times before, often the difference between success and failure is hanging on just a little longer, while enduring the struggles and challenges that come along the way. In the book, “The Slight Edge”, by Jeff Olson, he references a fact that should seem obvious, yet is worth mentioning. He states, ” How can you judge the course of action you’re taking by its results, when its results come last?” It is the things you do overtime that produce the results. Quite often, It’s the last 10% of your efforts that produce 90% of the results. According to Jeff, ” What you can do with your results is learn from them. Results are valuable feedback. Let them help motivate and guide your tomorrows.
But a focus on results only takes you out of the present moment where the action really is.” So action is the Key but just as Orrin References in his new book “Resolved, 13 Resolutions for LIFE”, page 112, PDCA is necessary to a successful outcome. PLAN, DO, CHECK and ADJUST. You must take action but check the results and adjust the action based on the result you got or the result you want. Sad to say, long before someone gets to read this, or apply these principles, they quit on themselves because they didn’t see instant results, even though they never applied the correct actions to achieve results.
One of the main things i want to address is something everyone will or has already experienced; Resistance! In the Book, “The Business of LIFE” by Orrin Woodward and Chris Brady, chapter 10- Swimming up-stream, talks about critics, skepticism and negativity. The Dream, Struggle and Victory every business owner must endure to be successful in business can be challenging. However, by acknowledging some of the struggles, addressing them head on and helping others figure out how to deal with them, the struggles, while necessary, can be handled with minimal pain. Martin Luther King JR said, “The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.”
Orrin and Chris state, ” When you decide to step out and pursue success in anything, there will be detractors. There will be people who shine doubt on what you are doing. As a matter of fact, negative resistance will be inversely proportional to the size of the undertaking. The bigger the dream, the bigger the critics” Further, Chris and Orrin say, “the key to finding success in life is to focus on what you know is right and ignore the negatives that come up along the way”.
Andy Stanley, author of, “Visioneering” (reference page 104 of Business of LIFE book), says, ” When someone catches a vision for bettering himself educationally or financially, his vision is often met with criticism from the people closest to him. Why? Because those who have no vision for their own academic pursuits or financial freedom feel threatened by those who have decided to get up and do something with themselves. Their insecurities about their own lack of education surface or they are forced to take a painful look at where they are financially as opposed to where they could be”.
Orrin says, ” 95% of America listens to other 95%ers”. The results one has in life is based on their thinking. If your thinking is the problem, you need to change your thinking to produce different actions in order to produce different results. For those that oppose you, they don’t know what they don’t know. Paul Pilzer says, ” The reason we do not embrace opposing views is that our human mind fears disorder and automatically avoids or rejects new ideas that challenge the existing order.” The other issue that can best be summed up from our mentor and friend Steve De Lorie is, ” People have PRE SUPPOSITIONS”. Critics often compare what we do to something they think this is and reject it or pass judgments”. This often prevents someone from making a decision based on facts and matters of the heart. Of course, as you get better at making a friend, finding a need, transferring the feeling and getting them involved in the system, your success rate will sky-rocket. How do you get better at showing the plan? Show 15 plans a month. Where have we heard that before?! I recommend everyone listen to 2 cds in particular on a regular basis; A check point Race by Chris Brady and The vital behaviors by Chris Brady.
This business clearly isn’t for everyone. If someone rejects the idea or opportunity, the best thing to do is acknowledge it and move on. There are plenty of people out there who do fit the qualities we look for, ambitious, looking, teachable and honest. There will be people you think need this business desperately. This is very likely true but often they won’t do this. As a new person in business, don’t let this shake you. As you have probably heard before, showing the plan is like going thru a 52 card deck; You are going to experience 2-9’s, which are comparably people who are not looking or interested and then come across face cards and aces, which are the ones who will hop on board and become your next leaders, provided they stick around long enough to make it work. Success demands a price and there are no short cuts, according to Chris Brady. The only thing one must determine is whether or not you are willing to pay the price for success. Part of paying the price is enduring some of these common issues.
My favorite quote in this category from F.A Hayek is, ” Nothing is more securely lodged than the ignorance of the experts”. Orrin and Chris also go on to say,” Critics are cowards, and criticism is the death gurgle of the non achievers” How true these statements are. For all of the people who say it can’t be done, there are people making it happen. Look at the troll people during some of our recognition sessions. If another human being can do this, so can we. Although it can be difficult to endure negativity from the people you show the plan to or from loved ones who supposedly have your best interests in mind, if you understand that criticism is normal, you can learn to handle those who may try to derail you. You are holding the “cookie”. When someone either rejects what you are sharing with them or tries to discourage you, remember what Orrin says, ” Its spit balls off a battle ship”. Your posture and attitude will carry you thru to the next person who is looking and will have an open mind. I often tell prospects directly to suspend their “presuppositions” and that an open mind is like a parachute, its works best when its open. I thank all of my up-line like Steve De Lorie, Terry Franks and Claude Hamilton, along with many of the other leaders on the TEAM, for some of those great one liners that make a difference when talking to people.
A lot of times it doesn’t take much to derail someone, whether they read some negativity on the internet or listen to people who are not qualified to have an opinion, yet, skepticism is normal so expect it. Trust the people you know and work with. Ask questions. As Chris Brady says, ” Truth is verified in the theatre of action” In other words, keep pressing on because the truth will show that any negativity, resistance or criticism can be overcome based on the truth and factual information. This is the best business on the planet and although some may not see that right away, if they give it a chance, they quickly see it. Does this business have flaws and issues that come up from time to time? Of course. Fortunately, we are working with some amazing men and women who have spent their entire lives living by the right principles, values, morals and ethics who apply both ” directional innovation” and the process PDCA, plan, do, check and adjust, to fix what is broken, and tweak it to make it better for all of us. Don’t look at things in a negative light, have grace with the process and understand that things will go wrong. Not everything will be perfect. Apply the simple principle that 90% of what happens is how you deal with it and only 10% is about what actually happens. Have EQ or “Emotional Intelligence” and remain calm. When an engine fire occurs on an airplane, it’s not cool to scream, ” FIRE, we are all going to crash and die!” I don’t think anything that happens in this business can compare to the potential ramifications of an engine fire in flight, so why do people overreact in business? EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE.
The last thing i want to talk about is something Chris Brady has talked about recently concerning consistency. It does not take fanaticism to achieve success. It takes a steady consistent effort that produce results over time. Quite often the thing that is keeping us from success is US. The system is designed to help everyone learn what is required to be successful in this business and in life. The question is, how hungry and disciplined are we to follow the system. Everything is laid out for us and it is up to us to follow in the foot steps of giants who have the fruit on the tree.

Its been said that mentorship is the lost art of leadership and your mentor is there to keep you on track. Allow them to hold you accountable for your progress and success. It’s the little things you do over time that make the difference. If you have issues in certain areas like booking plans, listening to cd’s or reading, allow your mentor to hold you accountable for helping you accomplish little goals. What you do when no one is watching often makes the difference. Don’t do it for your mentor, do it for you and your team. We often know whether or not you are listening to cd’s, reading or attending meetings. How do we know? It shows thru words, actions, attitudes and results. Of course I say that in a loving way. It takes the right stuff to become successful in this or anything in life. Once you figure out that you are the only one holding you back from success, then the rest is a matter of doing what you have to do at any cost. Chris Brady says, “Success is always on the other side of inconvenience.” The struggle will be worth the victory because your dreams, goals and aspirations should be worth everything to you. Stay the course and you can and will achieve your goals and dreams. I’m proud of you all for having the guts and courage to pursue the LIFE YOU ALWAYS WANTED.

God Bless,
Ben and Tanya Stern

How to have power and confidence in dealing with people, a great book

How to have power and confidence in dealing with people, by Les Giblin, is an amazing book and one of  the  top 5 books that help individuals improve their business and personal lives in a signifigant way.  I took the liberty of posting the key points of each chapter to help paint the big picture.  Hope it helps and inspires everyone.  Have a safe and blessed day!

Key bullet points from each chapter of the book, “How to have confidence and power in dealing with people.

Chapter 1

1. It is a proven fact that from 66 to 90 percent of all failures in the business world are failures in human relations.
2. So called personality problems such as timidity, shyness, and self-consciousness, are basically problems in dealing with people.
3. Learn the skills in dealing with people with confidence and you will automatically improve your own success and happiness.
4. Learn the underlying principles involved in dealing with people and you wont need gimmicks.

Chapter 2

1. We are all egoists.
2. We are all more interested in ourselves than in anything else in the world.
3. Every person you meet wants to feel important, and to amount to something.
4. There is a hunger in every human being for approval.
5. A hungry ego is a mean ego.
6. Satisfy the other persons hunger for self esteem and he automatically becomes more friendly
and likable.
7. Love thy neighbor as thyself. Psychologists now tell us that unless you do love yourself in
the sense of having some feeling of self esteem and self regard, it is impossible for you to feel friendly towards other people.
8. Help the other fellow like himself better and you make him easier to get along with.
9. People act or fail to act, largely to enhance their own ego.

Chapter 3

1. Don’t be stingy in feeding the hunger for a feeling of importance.
2. Don’t underestimate small courtesies such as being on time for an appointment. It is by such things that we acknowledge the importance of the other person. Unfortunately, we are often more courteous to strangers than to home folks. Try treating your family and friends with the same courtesy you show strangers
3. Remind yourself that other people are important, and your attitude will get across to the other person.
4, Start today, begin to notice other people more. Pay attention to a man or child and you make him feel important.
5. Don’t lord it over other people or attempt to increase your own feeling of self importance by making other people feel small.

Chapter 4

1. Whether you realize it or not, you control the actions and attitudes of others by your own actions and attitudes.
2. Your own attitudes are reflected back to you from the other person almost as if you stood in front of a mirror.
3. Act or feel hostile and the other fellow reflects this hostility back to you. Shout at him and he is almost compelled to shout back. Act calmly and unemotionally and you turn away his anger before it gets started.
4. Act enthusiastic and you arouse the enthusiasm of the other person.
5. Act confidently and the other person has confidence in you.
6. Begin today deliberately to cultivate an enthusiastic attitude. Take a tip from Frank Bettinger, and act as if you were enthusiastic. Soon you will be enthusiastic.
7. Right now, begin deliberately to cultivate a confident manner. Don’t mumble you words as if you were afraid to express them. Speak out. Watch your posture. A slumped figure signifies that you find the burdens of life too heavy for you to bear. A drooping head signifies that you are defeated by life. Hold your head up. Straighten up your shoulders.
8. Walk with a confident step as if you had somewhere important to go.

Chapter 5

1. In dealing with people, you yourself sound the keynote for the entire theme, when you begin the interview.
2. If you start off on a note of formality the meeting will be formal. Start off on a note of  friendliness and the meeting will be friendly. Set the stage for a business like discussion and it will be business like. Start on a note of apology and the other person will force you to play that theme all the way through.
3. When you meet someone for the first time, the impression you make then is very likely to be the keynote that will determine how he regards you for the rest of your life.
4. Other people tend to accept you at your own evaluation. If you think you are a nobody, you are practically asking other people to snub you.
5. One of the best means ever discovered for impressing the other fellow favorably is not to strive too hard to make an impression but to let him know that he is making a good impression on you.
6. People judge you not only by the opinion you hold of yourself but also by the opinions you hold on other things. your job, your company, even your competition.
7. Negative opinions create a negative atmosphere. Don’t be a knocker, and don’t be a sore head. The way, itself in which you ask things sets the stage or sounds the keynote for the other persons answer. Don’t ask no questions if you want yes answers. Don’t ask questions or issue instructions that imply you expect trouble. Why ask for trouble?

Chapter 6

Accept, Approve, Appreciate

1. Accept people as they are. Allow them to be themselves. Don’t insist on anyone being perfect before you can like them.
2. Approve. Look for something to approve in the other person. It may be something small.  Let the person know you approve of that.
3. Appreciation. To appreciate means to raise in value as opposed to depreciate which means to lower in value. Treat other people as if they were valuable to you. Thank them and give them special treatment.

Chapter 7

1. Human relations often become deadlocked because each party is afraid to make the first move.
2. Don’t wait for a sign from the other fellow. Assume that he is going to be friendly and act accordingly.
3. Assume the attitude that you wish the other person to take. Act as if you expected him to like you.
4. Take a chance that the other fellow will be friends. It is always a gamble but you will win 99 times for every time you lose. If you just bet on his being friendly. Refuse to take the chance and you lose every time.
5. Don’t be an eager beaver. Don’t be overly anxious. Don’t knock yourself out trying to make the other fellow like you. Remember there is such a thing as being too charming and trying too hard.
6. Just relax and take for granted that other people do like you.
7. Use the magic of your smile to warm up the other fellow.
8. Starting today, begin to develop a genuine smile by practicing before your bathroom mirror.
You know what a real smile looks like when you see one. You mirror will tell you whether your smile is real or phony. Also, going through the motions of smiling will get you in the habit and actually make you feel more like smiling.

Chapter 8

1. Both success and happiness depend in large measure on our ability to express ourselves.
Therefore start today to study ways to improve your talk. Keep at it day after day.
2. Practice starting conversations with strangers by using the warm up technique of asking simple questions or making obvious observations.
3. TO be a good conversationalist, stop trying to be perfect and don’t be afraid to be trite.
4. Nuggets and gems in conversation come only after you have dug a lot of low grade ore.
5. Ask questions to bring out interesting talk from others.
6. Use ” me too” technique to identify yourself with the speaker and his interests.
7. Talk about yourself only when invited to do so by the other person.  If he wants to know about you, he will ask.
8. Use happy talk  Nobody likes a goomy gus or prophet of gloom and doom.  Keep your troubles to yourself.
9. Eliminate teasing, kidding,  and sarcasm from your conversation.
10. Encourage the other person to talk about himself. Talk about the other persons interests.
Chapter 9

1. The art of listening will make you rich.
2. Look at the person who is talking. Anybody worth listening to is worth looking at. It will also help you concentrate on what he is saying.
3. Appear deeply interested in what he or she is saying. If you agree nod your head. Respond to his cue, work with him.
4. Lean toward the person who is talking.
Chapter 10
1. Dealing with people you may not agree with.
2. Let him state his case.
3. Pause momentarily before you answer.
4. Don’t insist on winning 100%
5. State your case moderately and accurately.
6. Speak thru third persons, Let the other person save face.

Chapter 11

1. If you want other people to help you, and go all out you must ask for their ideas as well as or their brawn.
2. Make the other fellow feel that your problem is their problem.
3. Use the principle of multiple management, giving each member of the team a voice in how the
team is to operate.
4. When you want someone to do you a favor make him a member of your team. Don’t just say, how aboutputting in a good word for me. Say if you were in my shoes and wanted to get favorable attention how would you go about it?
5. Set up your own brain trust and make use of the ideas suggestions and advice of other people.
6. Be sure when you ask for advice you actually want advice. DON’T Ask for advice if you want sympathy or a pat on the back.

Chapter 12

1. Sincere praise miraculously releases energy in the other person, perks him up physically as well as giving his spirits a lift.
2. The person who is discouraging doing sloppy work or just hard to get along with is probably suffering from low self esteem. Praise can act as a wonder drug to give his self esteem a healthy shot in the arm change his behavior for the better.
3. Give others credit for what they do. Show your appreciation of what they have done by saying THANK YOU.
4. Be generous with kind statements. Gratitude is not a common thing. By being generous with gratitude, you make yourself a stand out.
5. Increase your own happiness and peace of mind by paying three sincere compliments each day.

Chapter 13

1. Criticism must be made in privacy
2. Preface criticism with a kind word or compliment.
3. Make the criticism the act, not the person
.4. Supply the answer.
5. Ask for cooperation, don’t demand it.
6. One criticism to an offense.
7. Finish in a friendly fashion.

Chapter 14

KNOWLEDGE PLUS APPLICATION EQUALS SUCCESS!!
HAVE A POSITIVE ATTITUDE!!

Practice Kaizen

Continuous improvement—the Japanese call it kaizen—offers some of the best insurance for both your career and the organization. Kaizen (pronounced ky’zen) is the relentless quest for a better way, for higher quality craftsmanship. Think of it as the daily pursuit of perfection.

Kaizen keeps you reaching, stretching to outdo yesterday. The continuous improvements may come bit by bit. But enough of these small, incremental gains will eventually add up to a valuable competitive advantage. Also, if every employee constantly keeps an eye out for improvements, major innovations are more likely to occur. The spirit of kaizen can trigger dramatic breakthroughs.

PDCA- Plan, Do, Check and Adjust or Act.  Making corrections in your daily actions will yield the best results.  Make a plan, excute the plan, check the results and if necessary, take corrective action to acheive the result you want.

The dictionary definition is: Kaizen (改善?), Japanese for “improvement” or “change for the better”, refers to philosophy or practices that focus upon continuous improvement of processes in manufacturing, engineering, supporting business processes, and management. It has been applied in healthcare,[1] psychotherapy,[2] life-coaching, government, banking, and many other industries.

When used in the business sense and applied to the workplace, kaizen refers to activities that continually improve all functions.  Kaizen was first implemented in several Japanese businesses after the Second World War, influenced in part by American business and quality management teachers who visited the country. It has since spread throughout the world[4] and is now being implemented in many other venues besides just business and productivity.

Some elements of kaizen are:

Teamwork, Personal discipline, Improved morale, Quality circles, Suggestions for improvement.

Practice Kaizen everyday and you will continue to acheive your goals and dreams.  Personal development is key.  Are you practicing Kaizen?

Future economic trends

Over the course of the last 100 years in our US economic history, there have been a series of booms and busts on record that helps to explain the current state of our economy . A great example of a boom and bust cycle would be the recent housing market debacle.  Whether this particular boom and bust was predictable or not remains questionable.  There were a few economists and smart investors that knew when to get in and get out because they understood the laws of S curve economics. Every new trend and/or product has a pre-knee stage, beginning stage, critical mass stage and lager or loser stage. There always seems to be the select few that are in the right place at the right time.  That is because they have the right information and financial intelligence to prosper within any given trend. 

Today, there are a select group of individuals, the 5% ers, that know what and when the next trends will be and how to capitalize on those trends.  One of driving forces behind the next trends are based on the baby boomers. The baby boomers, the people born between 1946-1964, have hit an age where they are just starting to retire and will continue to retire in massive waves over the next few years. Just as economists predicted many of the spending cycles and habits based on the baby boomer generation, they are able to predict the future of our economy based on the same data.

In the 1990’s, the baby boomers reached their peak spending years, which helps to explain why the economy was experiencing an upswing. Now, with those same baby boomers on the fast track to retirement, we have only just begun to see a downward spiral in our economy. With approximately 310 million people in the USA, lets take a look at the breakdown:

If we look back to around 1926, approximately 47 million were alive, which ended up producing 78 million people born between 1946-1964. (its around 110 including illegals).  The baby boomers only had approximately 57 million children, which subsequently, 20 years later had 50 million children, then 40 million children 20 years after that.  There are approximately 18 million children currently under the age of 10.  If you do the math, our population has declined dramatically. The decline has and will continue to impact the economy as we move forward.

 I know there are a lot of other factors and variables that have contributed to the current state of our economy, (Government spending, etc) but lets focus on some facts about the baby boomers for a minute and see how this will affect us:

Size of the Boomer and Senior Markets:

78 million people were born between 1946 and 1964, which is defined as the baby boomer era (U.S. Census).

110 million baby boomers total if you combine illegals

The first baby boomer turned 60 on January 1, 2006.

An American turns 50 every 7 seconds-that’s more than 12,500 people every day (U.S. Census).

As of 2009, 48 is the largest age group in the United States (U.S. Census).

By 2015, those aged 50 and older will represent 45% of the U.S. population (AARP).

By 2030, the 65-plus population will double to about 71.5 million, and by 2050 will grow to 86.7 million people (U.S. Census).

Wealth of Baby Boomers and Seniors:

78 million Americans who were 50 or older as of 2001 controlled 67% of the country’s wealth, or $28 trillion (U.S. Census and Federal Reserve).

Households headed by someone in the 55-64 age group had a median net worth of $112,048 in 2000-15 times the $7,240 reported for the under 35 age group (U.S. Census and Federal Reserve).

The 50+ have $2.4 trillion in annual income, which accounts for 42% of all after-tax income (U.S. Consumer Expenditure Survey).
Adults 50 and older own 65% of the aggregate net worth of all U.S. households (U.S. Consumer Expenditure Survey).
Spending Habits of Adults 50+:

Adults 50+ account for an estimated $2 trillion in total expenditures for 2005.

This group has $2.3 trillion in disposable income.
Between now and 2010, the total spending for 50+ households will increase by over $900 billion.

By 2010, adults 45-years-old and older will out-spend younger adults by $1 trillion annually.

In 2004, people aged 50 and older spent an average of 47.6 percent of their family’s budget on “nonessentials” (Bureau of Labor).
50% of baby boomers plan to buy a new home after retirement (Del Webb Survey).

As of January 2007, baby boomers are 27% more likely than any other generations to embark on a major home improvement or repair in the next 6 months (Consumer Intentions and Actions Study).

96 percent of baby boomers participate in word-of-mouth or viral marketing by passing product or service information on to friends (ThirdAge and JWT Boom).

Impact on the Economy ( some facts as told by a baby boomer )

We are amused when visitors ask what effect the boomers are having on the economy. Folks, in 2011, the economy IS the boomers! We represent the vast majority of the work force. There are 78 million of us; we ARE the economy. (That is not bragging; that is just a statistical reality.) The huge growth in the economy since the 90s is due, in large part, to 77 million of us working up to our peak earning and spending years.

What are we spending our money on? Other than Metallica CDs and movies aimed at 15 year-olds, whatever is being sold… we are buying it. What kind of cars are we buying? What kind are Detroit and Japan selling? We ARE the upper end of the automobile market. What explains the popularity of SUVs? Mostly, we do. Where do we go on vacation? Everywhere. How do we get there? Every way possible. Day care centers are thriving because boomers do not want to take care of the kids they produced. And their offspring think it is supposed to be that way. (Parents are not supposed to stay home and raise their children. Why, that’s a terribly stupid idea, huh? That is what day care centers and the government is for.)

In the 50s, businesses focused on stuff for kids…. 30 million boomers… and still growing. Gerber (the baby food company) was huge in the 50s. Toys…. there was an enormous growth in the variety and quantity of toys. (“You can tell its Mattel; it’s swell!”) And TV, just coming into its own, focused heavily on kids’ shows. Disneyland…. a 50s thing. (Disneyworld…. a 70s thing, paid more attention to history and thrill rides…. things of interest to young adult boomers.) The stylish cars of the 60s and 70s — a direct response to the boomers.

The huge explosion in recreational vehicles in the 90s…. a direct response to empty-nest boomers.

The first half of the 21st century will see a huge explosion in stuff for aging boomers: active retirement communities and vacation homes, skin creams, tooth whitening goo, cosmetic surgery, lasik surgery, Depends, and, of course, the Hair Club for Men. The biggest expenditures will be in the wellness category.

As (relatively) old and aging as we are, we are still the largest age-related demographic…. “numbers too big to ignore.” Now take these facts and understand that the housing market is dead for a reason and will remain dead for a long time. The economy is in trouble and thatÂ’s not hard to see. With millions of baby boomers retiring, and not enough children growing up to replace them fast enough, the economy will not see the boom that occurred in the 90’s for a long time.

Some final facts and other tidbits of information contributing to our current and future economic crisis.

There are 310 Million Americans

82 Million Working Families

50 Million Americans on Welfare and Rising!

110 Million Working people

61% are living pay check to paycheck

78 Million are Baby Boomers

In less then 16 years they will exit the work force leaving 54 million ppl to replace them and they will pay for it all!

43% of Americans don’t have 10K in retirement

50% of Housing is owned by the banks

21% of Kids live below poverty and that’s increasing daily

62% of America lives paycheck to paycheck

4.28 Million new bankruptcy this year alone

929k new home foreclosures this year or 2900 per day

check out the USDEBTCLOCK.ORG; see for yourself

8.4 Million jobs are now over sea’s with no hope of returning, thousands of jobs leaving every month.

9.6% unemployment #’s will never return to work they had.

Why did I take the time to make note of all this? Gloom and doom? No. With the reality of what is coming and how the Government is handling everything, it is very scary to think about not having a plan B. We are helping America wake up and supply them with truth and wisdom. Every top economist, millionaire and leader we have involved ourselves with, sees the writing on the wall. This is the first time in economic history that a combination of all of these factors are going to hit.

There are always booms and busts and next bubble to burst is going to affect everyone, especially the hard working middle class citizens. We are in the eye of the storm. The good news is, there are always opportunities in a downturn and as we get educated, get better at who we are and leverage the information we receive from those who know what is coming, we can survive and thrive in the next several years. It is all about information. It is about embracing change. It is about understanding that we must dig our well before the well runs dry. There are no guarantees in life but its best to be prepared for a rainy day. It always rains. Its best to have a good umbrella!

Information age thinking

World renowned economist, Harry S. Dent, talks about the current state of our economy and a term called “quantatative easing”, in this short video below. Mr. Dent has a great reputation for educating the public and making accurate predictions partly based on demographics, spending cycles and the mass retirements scheduled to occur over the next few years.

With the combination of upcoming retirements and massvie Government debt accumulation,  Dent believes that the current recession isn’t ending anytime soon. In fact, it’s just the beginning phase of a prolonged downturn that will be deeper and more severe than anything since we’ve experienced so far.

After reading Dent’s books and watching his videos, something occured to me;  Many people, including myself at first, didn’t believe in gloom and doom and that somehow, things always seem to work out.  But then I recalled that millions of people recently got caught ‘with their pants down’ and lost millions in the stock and housing market. I thought, if we knew then what we know now, things would have been different. Clearly, the right information helps to make the best decisions, especially in the information age.

This time, I believe accurate predictions are being made by the same individuals who predicted the previous crashes. For the first time in US History, we can see several bubbles getting bigger and bigger.  The question is, what do we do about it? Most economists like Robert Kiyosaki agree, there are some clearly defined choices everyone can make now to protect or shield us from the storm.  Everyone, no matter what job owns them, or what self employed jobs they own, or how financially secure they are, will be affected. 

Between Harry S Dent, Robert Kiyosaki and the top financial gurus and business leaders with TEAM, we have a great number of resources to choose from to help protect us from the upcoming storm.  Harry S Dent’s website is http://www.hsdent.com/ There is an abundance of information on his site, should you be interested in learning more. I can also recommend Robert Kiyosaki’s book, “Conspiracies of the rich, the 8 ways to make money”.  What a great book.

 I know what we are doing to protect us from the storm.  The idea is to be aware of the current state of affairs, what is coming and then make some informative decisions. I had to humble myself over the last few years, get my head out of the sand and not just hope for the best. I had to take my financial future into my own hands. In any downturn economy, there are ways to prosper.  Even a small understanding of our tax structure and how a business can save you thousands of dollars a year, can make a huge difference.  As more people get educated, change their thinking, and understand that we are in a new age, the information age, their lives will improve.  We see it everyday in business.  The video below should be an eye opener and will hopefully encourge you to ask the right questions about where we are headed and what to do about it.

How to prosper in a downturn economy.. The great depression ahead.

Influence and Leadership

Quite often I post information and blog our thoughs on health and wellenss.  As the title of our blog is, ” health, wealth and wisdom”, it is always important to remember that all three of these categories work together and influence the other.  I was inspired to write this post because so many of our successful mentors and friends have been on a life long personal development journey,which has been one of the main keys to their success.

In 1936, Dale Carnegie made publishing history when he wrote his book, “How to win friends and Influence people”.  To this day, his teachings has helped millions of people across the globle in the areas of personal development, leadership, business and relationships.  I wanted to list a few of his basic points here as a refresher.  Whether you are in business, an employee or in a relationship, these are great pointers.
Avoid Arguments.

-You will get more in business with honey than vinegar so be friendly and gentle
-When you are wrong, admit it emphatically and move on
-When you begin a conversation with someone, even if it’s an opponent, focus on the things you can agree on.
-Let the other person talk more than you do.  Listen carefully.
-Try honestly to see things from other people’s perspective.
-Lead other people to the conclusion you want by making suggestions, but ultimately let a person feel the idea was his or hers.
-Believe people are inherently good and honest.
-When pointing out someone’s mistakes, talk about them indirectly.
-Let other people maintain their pride.
-Use questions to lead people instead of giving direct orders.
-Lavish praise anytime you see an improvement.
-See the best in people and then they will rise to your expectation.
-Be supportive and make mistakes seem easy to correct.

For more information, I suggest everyone read Carnegie’s book.  For those that have read it, I recommend you re-read it on a regular basis!  As one of my favorite leadership guru’s Chris Brady is fond of saying, “you dont know what you dont know and some of what you know just aint so” and “What you do know, you are forgetting”.  So, it’s important to be reminded of this basic pointers and truisms to help further your journey in the areas of health, finances and relationships.  God Bless.

Personal development, strong relationships contribute to health life

 

(NewsCore) – An active social life may help patients fight cancer with a new study linking the stress of relationships to reductions in the size of cancerous growths, The (London) Daily Telegraph reported Friday.
 
Experiments found that moving cancer-stricken mice from private lodgings into more spacious shared accommodation led to an average reduction in the size of tumors of 77 percent.
 
After three weeks, five percent of mice in the experiments showed no evidence of cancer. Matthew During, of Ohio State University, told The (London) Daily Telegraph the findings suggest cancer treatments should focus on living a “richer life, socially and physically” rather than minimizing stress.
 
“This paper really suggests if we look at people more in terms of their perceptions of disease, their social interactions and environment, we could realize a profound influence on cancer,” he said. The findings differ to those of other recent studies that suggest high stress levels reduce the survival rate of cancer patients.
 
So what’s the point?  I believe that staying healthy both physically and mentally, leads to a long life of fun, passion and purpose.  Everything comes down to a decision on how we chose to live.  The decisions we make on a daily basis over time can make all the difference in the world. 
 
 What is interesting is how we make our decisions.  As habit forming creatures, even when the decisons we make aren’t necessarily the best ones for our health or relationships, we often chose the easy path that does not force us to change. 
 
One of the things that truly made a difference in my life was plugging into new information on a regular basis, either thru audio cds or reading books that stretched my thinking and imagination.  When we get new information, it changes the way we think, which often changes our attitude, opinions and actions.  All of this leads to positive results.  That is why i am a big advocate of listening to and reading material on personal development, history, economics, finanaces, relationships and leadership.  Over the last few years, this radical change in my thinking has made life so much better.
 
I know that a life full of purpose, having solid relationships and a desire to make a difference in other people’s lives, makes a huge difference in our health, both physically and emotionally.  What are you doing on a daily basis to flourish your relationships and accomplish your goals and dreams?   

Don’t leave this earth with regrets.  As a result of your passions and your pursuit of excellence, using your God given talents, you will live a healthy, happy life. We are only here on this planet for a short blip in time. In the end, you only have one body, one mind and one soul.  Do everything you can to protect all three!  God Bless, Ben

Words of wisdom from Chris Brady.. He who Laughs, lasts

Here is a re-post from Chris Brady’s blog:

http://www.chrisbrady.typepad.com/#

Leadership is about the influence one has with others. To gain that influence, one must be an effective performer, trustworthy, visionary, and a whole host of other things we described in Launching a Leadership Revolution. There are some “soft” side considerations, too. One of these, often ignored, is humor.

Both the ability to inspire mirth and the quickness with which one laughs are effective skills in gaining influence. Why? Because people like to be around those who are fun and make them laugh.

Below are ten ways to increase your ability to both appreciate humor and to contribute to the laughter:

1. Don’t take yourself too seriously – the world is overstuffed with people puffed up with their own self-importance. Distance yourselves from these bores by taking everything seriously except yourself.

2. Have an attitude of gratitude – one of the things holding many people back from humor is their bad attitude. They are in too bad a mood to see the funny side of anything. You won’t appreciate the subtly that is humor unless you are appreciative to begin with.

3. Make your foibles the subject matter – the most enjoyable people to be around are those who are able and quick to laugh at themselves. Conversely, the worst kind of people to be around are those who laugh at others.

4. Stay away from sarcasm – humor is dangerous, especially when it is biting or berating. Tread carefully, and especially when it comes to your “humor style.” Sarcasm may be fun to dish out, but it is never enjoyable to receive.

5. Be good-hearted – one of the things most endearing about someone is their good heart. It comes through in everything they say. When people intrinsically feel that you mean no harm and are instead only interested in their well being, they will be unguarded around you and open to your every statement. This relaxed posture makes everything you say more funny.

6. Tell stories – some of the merriest moments occur naturally as we live our lives. Capture those moments in your mind in story form and save them for later. Being able to tell good, humorous stories is always a skill in demand.

7. Become a prodigious noticer – Mark Twain first coined that term, giving away the secret of his mirth. Comedy comes from noticing the small and subtle things about this life we share together. It is this prodigious noticing that will give you the stories to tell in #6.

8. Techniques – there are some skills that enhance humor, such as timing, delivery, facial expressions, dramatization, gestures, and the like. Over time and with practice, develop a style all your own.

9. Circular – bringing something back around into a conversation that occurred earlier can be hilarious. Watch for ways to apply earlier humor to new situations.
10. Be a good laugher – one of the keys to reducing tension in a room is to be a good laugher yourself. Laughter is actually contagious. Be quick to enjoy others and their stabs at humor and their own moods will lighten and be more prepared to receive your quips, as well.

I could go on all day here, but one final piece of advice about humor: know when to quit!

The Price of success, By Chris Brady

Chris Brady, along with Orrin Woodward, our mentors, are ranked #25 and #8th most influential leaders and business gurus on the planet. We appreciate them so much as they tirelessly and selflessly lead the way towards everyone’s success in personal development and business. They are amazing.

My sister Linda

I wanted to change gears a bit and share with everyone the memorial site i created for my sister who passed away from cancer a while ago.  She was my inspiration for starting this health blog and over the course of time i have received a lot of feedback from people who found this site useful and informative.

Sometimes, it is easy to get wrapped up in our daily endeavors and forget the things that are truly important.  I received a condolence from one of my sister’s friends today.  As I sat back to read it and watch the memorial site, tears came to my eyes.  Times like this give me the courage to continue the fight to help and serve others who are in need of help, especially in the areas of health, finances and relationships.  Here is my sister’s site should anyone want to see it.  God bless.

http://linda-lamori.last-memories.com/index.php