Back to Basics in Leadership

I am starting a new series of posts that focus on going “Back to Basics”. These basics are the foundation of leadership and serve to guide us through not only our  business endeavors but also our personal lives.  By learning and focusing on these timeless principles, the end results are truly amazing.

We can and should all strive to get better at the things that matter in life.  Who wouldn’t want to be a better Mom or Dad to your kids, become a better friend to your buddies,become a better spouse to your significant other, a better co-worker or employee at your job or become a successful business owner, all based on learning and applying these basic principles over time.  The results are truly worth the effort.

I thought Id start with a great video by Chris Brady, who talks about what leadership is. Enjoy and stay tuned for my “back to basics” posts.

Ben

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A great post on attitude by Chris Brady

It’s not what happens to you, it’s what you happen to do with what happens to you.

I am impressed by many people, especially those who have a great attitude, seem focused on others, and make me feel good by just being around them. Often, however, I have been surprised to eventually find out that the person behaving in this admirable way has had anything but an easy life. In one case, the couple had lost a teenage child, in another, one had battled cancer, in yet another, family financial challenges were nearly taking them under. Yet, in spending time with these people, none of these burdens were obvious, no complaints were forthcoming, and negativity seemed to have no place in their vocabulary.

Contrast this with people who are not happy unless they are unhappy; those who appear hard-wired to focus on the downside of everything, complaining about this slight or that perceived unfair situation as though they were the world’s #1 victim.

What is the difference between the two groups?

In my opinion, the difference stems from a person’s perspective on events, and how he or she responds to the challenges of life. Bad times and hardships skip no one. Sickness, death, relational struggles, and other frictions of life do not single out particular victims. We are all swimming in the same soup. Realizing this is a major step toward maturity and will go a long way to improving your relationships and attractiveness.

Why, in a culture and time in which people are so blessed, are so many full of complaints?

Peculiarly, negative people don’t think they are negative. If they admit to any impertinence at all, they will usually say they are merely being “realistic.” This is a non sequitur, because their perspective on reality is warped by their ungratefulness, and they are no more infallible than anyone else when it comes to defining true reality.

How can you be more positive and more fun to be around? Here are ten things to consider:

1. Realize that it’s not what happens to you, but how you respond that counts. We all have it tough in some way(s), so stop comparing yourself to others and begin tracking your own personal growth, instead.

2. Never stop counting your blessings. The truth is, your every breath is a gift.

3. Don’t take yourself too seriously. It’s refreshing to come across someone who is truly humble.

4. Look for good in people and situations. You will be delighted by the surprising treasures you’ll discover.

5. Become “other” focused, and think about how you can serve rather than receive. Sacrifice is a surprising paradox that serves the server as much as the served.

6. Consider your mortality, and operate with an eternal perspective. This involves prayer and worship, and being more concerned with whose you are than who you are.

7. Treat being flexible as an open invitation to unplanned adventure. It’s the unexpected that often thrills us the most. Be open to it.

8. Find your purpose in life and pour your efforts into it. Work barely seems like work when you’re doing what you were built to do. Do what you were meant to and do it with a purpose.

9. Forgive quickly, and forget even faster. Carrying grudges only builds muscles of bitterness. Lighten up by dropping that load.

10. Be present wherever you are. Multi-tasking is a thief, robbing us of joys and stealing our ability to focus and create clear memories. If you’re with your kids, be with your kids. If you’re at work, be at work. Stop splitting yourself into little worthless pieces.

And there is probably an eleventh: Don’t read too many blog articles like this one where the author preaches at you as if he’s got it all together himself. Nobody is that good!

Top 10 realities of success

Hello everyone,

I couldn’t pass up the chance to share this great insightful post from Chris Brady on the realities of success. This says it all. I hope you gain wisdom from this.

Ben

Top 10 Realities of Success

It doesn’t always go the way you want, and it doesn’t always go the way it should, but it does always go. Success isn’t easy, easily explained, or entirely predictable. Anyone who tries to paint too clear of a picture of their success is being a little misleading, albeit perhaps unknowingly.

Here’s the thing: it’s true that success is hard, but failure is hard, too. The choice is where you choose to have your “hard.” Do you want the “hard” of self-discipline or the “hard” of the consequences of failure?

And here’s another thing: success usually goes to the crazy.

That’s right, the crazy. Those who are whacked enough to believe they can achieve something, stubborn enough to stick with it, and dogged enough not to cave in to excuses and the lure of lesser things. Remember, it’s people who actually believe they can change the world who actually do!

So for the crazies out there, here’s an honest look at the jagged journey to your dreams. It’s not littered with rose pedals and candy, that’s for sure, but it is one of the most rewarding journeys upon which you could ever embark.

Here are the Top 10 Realities of Success:

10. You will work your butt off – there is no definition of true success that doesn’t also include the concept of earning it. Expect it.

9. You will feel like a dork – you cannot accomplish uncommon things without doing uncommon things. Automatically, that sets you apart from the safety of the crowd, and you will feel that distance.

8. You will run into knuckleheads – this one was the biggest shocker to me. Everyone isn’t nice, kind, or encouraging. Prepare for a few knives in the back. The uniform of leadership is thick skin.

7. You will doubt yourself – if you don’t feel multiple times along the way like you’ve lost your mind, you’re probably not on the road to making it.

6. You will have reversals – failures aren’t fatal if you don’t let them be final. Get up and get going again. More adventures await the resilient.

5. Someone will preach to you – folks will come from everywhere to thrust their opinions and concerns upon you. Smile, nod, and go about your business. It’s your life. Remember, no guts, no story.

4. You will have to make a million unforseen adjustments – don’t get too concerned about the path, it will turn and twist more than you can imagine starting out. That’s normal. Bob and weave as necessary, but keep your eyes fixed upon the prize.

3. You will compare yourself to others – it will be a natural instinct to look around and assume others have it easier, better, or whatever. They don’t. God knows what he’s doing even if you don’t. Look to Him, not to them.

2. You will get frustrated by a lack of progress -frustration to an achiever is like that pesky neighborhood kid you can’t move away from. You don’t have to like it, but you do have to learn to deal with it on a regular basis.

1. “They” will call you lucky – I promise. No matter what you achieve, someone will explain it away by labeling it luck. At least I told you this up front. And for that, you’re lucky.

The good news, however, is that for each one of these truths about success, the reverse is also true.

10. BUT it won’t feel like work after a while because you’ll love it.

9. BUT if you stick with it you’ll eventually feel like a champion.

8. BUT you will meet some of the dearest people, too.

7. BUT you will grow to respect yourself.

6. BUT you will also have advances.

5. BUT someone will learn from you.

4. BUT you will accomplish a main vision (or two or three).

3. BUT others will compare themselves to you.

2. BUT you will become encouraged by progress.

1. You’ll know you earned it (mostly).

Now get moving, your destiny awaits!

Sincerely,

Chris Brady

Leadership thoughts on Mental Toughness

Here is a great article I came across just recently from Policy Council and LIFE founder, Tim Marks.  This post talks about Developing Mental Toughness, something all of us should strive for in business and in life.  Mental toughness and Emotional Intelligence combined can help us endure the hard times and take advantage of the opportunities we are given.  Tim Marks is an amazing author and all the credit goes to him for this eye opening post.

Whether you are an athlete on the gridiron or in the boardroom, a certain quality is always found in the guys who remain standing when the storm winds blow.  When rejection hits these guys its bounces off them like spitballs off of a battleship.  They chuckle at groundless criticism.  They bounce back quickly from setbacks.  They feel energized to try even harder after a defeat.  That special quality these warriors are showing is something called “mental toughness”.  Wikipedia defines this as “a term commonly used by coaches, sport psychologists, sport commentators, and business leaders – generally describes a collection of attributes that allow a person to persevere through difficult circumstances (such as difficult training or difficult competitive situations in games) and emerge without losing confidence.” (Emphasis added.)

Each of us will receive a gut shot at some point in our lives that knocks the wind right out of us.  It’s not a matter of whether you will be struck by disaster, but when.  In my first book, Voyage of a Viking, I describe in detail many of the challenges I faced through my life.  I’ve faced my storms and I know that I have more storms awaiting me.  I also know that you do as well.  Rather than sitting around moaning and complaining when we are being pelted by chunks of hail the size of golf balls, we can put on a suit of armor to deflect whatever life throws as us.  That suit of armor is your mental toughness.

You can’t measure mental toughness; you measure its effect.  You can’t measure what’s going on inside a leaders head, but you sure can measure their behavior!  You see it when they lose their biggest customer one month, and it ticks them off just enough to go smash a sales record the next month.    You can see mental toughness when someone is running a marathon and they are gasping for breath, and the only thing keeping them putting one painful footstep in front of the next is their strength of will.  You see it when someone is totally exhausted, yet they keep throwing hundreds of shots into the basketball hoop to perfect their free throw (like my awesome daughter Mya!).  In fact, Mya had to make 1000 free throws; in order to reach that goal, she had to shoot a couple of thousand.   She wanted to quit many times during that experience, but she had committed to a number of people that she would reach her goal.  It’s amazing how a twelve year old girl will follow through on her committment more effectively than most adults.  Mental toughness is courage in action.  When you’ve got it, you cope better than your opponents with the demands you face.

How do we develop mental toughness?  Here are a few principles to get you started:

Principle #1: Realize Mental Toughness Can Be Developed.

Some people might be born with a certain personality, like a “Choleric” or “D” personality type, and maybe this personality type handles adversity a little more effectively than others.  But that’s not always the case, and either way, anyone can develop this side of their personality.  Don’t cop out on yourself by selling yourself any victim thinking, like “That’s just the way I am.”  Brothers and sisters, you can CHANGE.  How do you build mental toughness?  The same way you build muscles in the gym: by pushing yourself to new limits and increasing the pressure or resistance you are pushing against.

Principle #2: Mental Toughness in the Gym Correlates to Mental Toughness in LIFE.

The gym is the ultimate proving ground for “tough guys” and “tough gals”.  You really find out what you’re made of when you’re doing hack squats or leg extensions.  Most people get into the gym, start doing bicep curls, and as soon as it starts to get uncomfortable, they say, “Okay, I’ve done enough for now,” and they stop exercising.  This is actually the exact wrong thing to do, if your goal is to develop your muscles.  You see, when it starts to hurt, that’s the lactic acid burn in your muscles screaming, “Great job! Keep going!  You’re making progress!”  But when most people start to feel discomfort they choose to ease off.

You don’t become successful at anything by letting your foot off of the gas pedal when the going gets tough.  This includes the gym, your marriage, and your business.  When it hurts to do even one more rep of an exercise, that’s when the real muscle development starts!  (By the way, I’m not talking about pushing through pain when you are actually injured; I’m referring to the normal discomfort we feel when we are tearing down our muscles during a workout.)  If you throw in the towel on the bench press, you train your brain to quit when things get tough.  When you force yourself to keep pushing the weight even when you want to give up, you are training your brain to keep pushing.  Some people on my business team “run for the tape,” as my good friend andLaunching a Leadership Revolution bestselling co-author Chris Brady says.  That means that when there is a fast-approaching deadline to hit a business target, and things look grim, they keep pushing and fighting right up to the last minute!  They don’t give in just because it looks unlikely or difficult to accomplish… they pull a rabbit out of the hat by persevering despite all odds against them.

Principle #3: Champions Fall in Love with Discomfort

Winners know that the path to success is steep and rocky, and the path to defeat is like a sign pointing at a waterslide that says, “Slippery, Fun and Easy to Reach the Bottom in a Jiffy!”  Bad habits are easy to slip into, like a warm bed when you’re exhausted.  Good habits are pretty much guaranteed to feel tough for most people because you end up denying yourself luxuries and pleasures. You must learn to do what is uncomfortable for you. To develop the psychological edge, you must have extreme discipline to give up the comfort zone that you train and live in. Delaying immediate satisfaction is the ultimate sacrifice that all warriors must choose.

My mentor, New York Times bestselling author Orrin Woodward, recounted a story of arriving home one day in the wee hours of the morning.  He had been driving for hours from a business meeting, and had to get home to get to work the next day.  It was so early in the morning that he knew he would only get a few hours of sleep.  But Orrin’s viewpoint of this was a feeling of pride!  He actually said to himself, “I’m losing sleep!  I’m fighting harder to help my family than my neighbors, who are all getting a nice sleep right now!”  His brain normally connected feeling tired with unhappiness, and now his brain connected fatigue with a feeling of honor.  That’s what winners do!

RESOLVE to become a champion and develop mental toughness in your business, your health, your relationships and in LIFE!

What’s your Financial IQ?

Have you ever wondered why you can’t ever seem to get ahead financially? Are you looking to get out of debt but have a hard time making ends meet?  Are you worried about retirement and what your future holds?  Do you know what the future trends of our economy are and how to capitalize on them? Have you ever thought, there’s got to be a better way? You are not alone!

Today, we are in the information age. The rules of the game have changed.  Financial security has become more difficult based on today’s economics. What was painfully obvious, based on my results in life, was that what I thought I knew about money was not entirely true.  I violated every rule in the book and lived paycheck to paycheck, even after many years of hard work.

In retrospect, I realize that school never prepared or taught me about finances and unfortunately,  I never had solid role models in my life that understood solid financial principles.  I believe society is in trouble today because we only exemplify and preach what we learn and apply over time.

After plugging into some amazing information from LIFE, I learned that it’s never too late to change based on new information. The information contained on these Cd’s and books, were created by multi-millionaires who truly have results in life.  The founders of LIFE, Orrin Woodward and Chris Brady, among many other successful business entrepreneurs, have helped tens of thousands of individuals get out of debt and get their finances right based on the information they offer.  This information is vital for anyone, whether you are highly knowledgeable about money or simply looking to learn the basics.  Sometimes, being reminded of what we knew or have forgotten, can make a difference.

After learning some about the history of money, the what, why and how of finances, where we are and what to expect in the future, I realized how much I didn’t know.  As Chris Brady is fond of saying, “You don’t know what you don’t know, and what you do know sometimes just isn’t so.

Just like an Ostrich who buries its head in the sand, I overlooked the very things that could actually help me get out of the mess I was in.  One thing was for sure; Without the right information, knowledge and discipline, I would continue to struggle to make ends meet and live paycheck to paycheck. This information changed everything for me. When you apply the right principles and information to any given situation,  you can achieve significant positive results. The testimonies from others who loved the material are overwhelming!

I can honestly say that this information below changed my life forever. Try this information out.  It will inspire you, educate you, entertain you and most importantly, have a major impact on your life.  Get it here!

Maximize Your Finances and Today’s economy and your Money

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Going from ‘Good to Great’ with the 90 day Mental Fitness Challenge

Author Jim Collin’s wrote a best-selling book called, “Good to Great”, where he reveals many of the factors that determine the long-term success or failure of a business or corporation.  Through his exhaustive research and analysis of facts and data, there are some key revelations why some companies triumph and achieve long-term sustained success and others fail.  One of the key reasons according to Collins is because ‘good is the enemy of great’.  Collins says most individuals and companies that fail, do so because they are comfortable and happy with their current situation, good or bad.  A lot of businesses settle for good and never aspire to be great.  Mr Collins writes, “That good is the enemy of great is not just a business problem.  Its a human problem.  As we seek to understand the differences between good and great, between excellent and mediocre, I believe it comes down to the individual.  It comes down to a choice and how we think. It’s a matter of conscious thought.

Ironically enough, the first chapter of “Good to Great”, references Level 5 leadership and what a significant impact leadership had on those companies that achieved greatness.  Since the leadership/personal development industry is roughly a 400 billion dollar industry, clearly going from ‘Good to Great’  involves applying the right principles and practices of success and leadership over time and doing what is necessary to get the job done. We may not understand fully what leadership is but we certainly know,see and feel what a lack of leadership is.  We see it in our Governments, unions, Churches, schools and homes all across the globe.

   Orrin Woodward, best-selling author of multiple books including Launching a Leadership Revolution and Resolved-13 resolutions for LIFE, #6 Leadership guru on the planet,  and the founder of LIFE -Living Intentionally For Excellence Inc., has not only achieved amazing personal success, but has also taught thousands of others the principles of  success, leadership and the importance of personal development.  The question is, as a business owner, employer or employee, how valuable, profitable or significant would it be to have leadership/personal development training integrated into your business or personal life?  The testimonies are overwhelming.

What the New 90 day Mental Fitness Challenge and the LIFE/LLR ( leadership training ) is doing today is leveraging the best minds of our time to provide the right information to individuals and corporations looking to improve and excel.  In order to go from good to great and achieve results, it all comes down to helping and empowering the individual to embark on a journey of leadership training and personal growth.

If you are a business owner, employee or just an individual looking to live the life you’ve always wanted, what the Mental Fitness Challenge can do help identify and teach what is necessary for success.  Imagine an employee or employer with a better attitude, better people skills, higher level of character and integrity, better conflict resolution skills,  deeper sense of purpose, greater knowledge of systems thinking or business in general.  All of these traits and more can and will ultimately lead to better business,  profits and productivity.

The greatest part I have seen is that the Mental Fitness Challenge has been engineered and developed by an amazing group of men and women, all with overwhelming results in life.  None of these individuals pontificate from on high or just write about success.  They are all actively out in society developing other leaders, something the world is sorely lacking today. With over 18 years of teaching and success in the business world and a mission to help millions of people learn, grow and get better, the impact of LIFE goes beyond measure.  The founders of LIFE and the Mental Fitness Challenge have made it their legacy to spread leadership and teach timeless principles and practices to the masses, and do it in a fun, affordable way.  Customers can share the Mental Fitness Challenge with others and get reimbursed for the cost of their Package.  That alone is amazing.

The Mental Fitness Challenge can help teach what was never taught or emphasized in school, even at the college level. The Mental Fitness Challenge can help maintain high levels of performance over time which is key.  This material is of the highest quality, most competitive cost in the world.  There are countless schools, Real Estate companies, Lawyers offices, churches and other business organizations implementing this material.  It is in demand all across the globe, thanks to the Gentlemen and Ladies that represent the best leadership service provider in the world.  The best investment anyone can make is in their brain.  Proper thinking and information from the right source can and will lead to the right results, offer immeasurable success in your professional and personal life and take you from Good to Great in whatever endeavor you pursue.  Are you ready to take the Challenge?

God Bless,

Ben and Tanya

I wish I knew that as a child!

I remember my first flight when I was 9 years old like it was yesterday. My brother Marc took me flying in a multi-engine airplane over the south shore of Long Island, NY. I knew I wanted to fly airplanes ever since that day. I am fortunate to say I had a path and the right influences and mentorship in my life.

As my aviation journey began, I remember going off to the book store and reading and learning everything I possibly could about airplanes.  I wasn’t able to get my pilot’s license yet but was actively dreaming about my future.   Somewhere in my studies, I remember coming across a book that intrigued me.  It was not an aviation book, but rather a self-help book, something that I certainly didn’t think I needed at that time. Ironically enough, I read it behind closed doors and this single book actually had a profound effect on my attitude and life.  I found this book not too long ago in my library and started to thumb through it. It was definitely written with Kids and younger adults in mind but everything in there applies to adults even today. Ive come to learn that success comes from the proper thinking which leads to actions and results. Again, having a coach, guide or mentor, plays a major role in developing the right thinking and habits that are necessary for long term success in any endeavor.

Well, it got me thinking. The title of the book is LIFE 101, Everything we wish we had learned in school but didn’t.. Years later, I wish I truly spent more time learning the things that truly matter in life, things school never taught, and doesn’t to this day. Although things worked out, there are a lot of things I would have done differently, like plug into this type of information on a regular basis.

Fast forward to today. We are so blessed to say that we have our hands on the best personal development system on the planet. LIFE, has changed countless lives because it provides world-class information, leadership training and personal development programs from successful people with results in life who teach the things that truly matter.

For Instance, LIFE offers a series for young adults called the EDGE series, which provides audio talks and books to help children and teenagers learn about success and the importance of personal development. The EDGE series is amazing. If you have children and understand that this material is designed to help them at an early age, then this is a fantastic series to plug them into. We love it.

 What a great investment in our children. They are our future!

Here is what the EDGE series is:

“If I only knew then what I know right now!” How many older people have had these types of thoughts? If the principles of success and winning could be learned at any age, why do so many people not learn them until much later in life, if at all? Why shouldn’t the principles of massive success be available to anyone at any age? After all, there is no age limit on success!

That’s what the EDGE series is all about! Designed especially for those on the younger side of life, it is a hard-core, no frills approach to learning the things that will make for a successful life. You will laugh, you will cry, you will totally have fun. Featuring successful businessmen and women, authors, entrepreneurs, and even professional athletes who deliver true stories of success, the EDGE series will give anyone a head start on living a happy, fulfilling, successful, and meaningful life.

Eliminate the noise around you about what you are and who you should become. Instead, figure it out for yourself in a mighty way with life-changing information from people who would do just about anything to have learned these truths much, much sooner in life! It may have taken them a lifetime to discover these truths, but what they learned can be yours now on a monthly basis.

What can the Mental Fitness Challenge do for You?

The Mental Fitness Challenge has been out for 16 days now and it has gone viral. Orrin Woodward and Chris Brady have hit a home run with this LIFE changing Personal Development Program. It was designed to help educate and change people’s thinking and provide a measurable way to see massive improvements in any of the areas that truly matter in our lives.

After taking a Pre-Self assessment test and establishing a base line of where you are, you embark on a 90 day challenge to learn, grow and get better in any or all areas of our lives. The testimony and feedback so far has been amazing. Claude Hamilton, one of the founders of LIFE and The Mental Fitness Challenge, has posted a lot of this testimony on his blog.

The best investment you can make is in your brain.  A lot of us spend time working out and getting physically fit but not all of us have a plan to get and stay Mentally Fit.  Since the body always follows the mind, this Challenge will radically change your thinking and the results in your life, whether it be a better marriage, becoming a better parent, having better finances, having a stronger faith life, developing closer friends, having a higher purpose or all the above.  There are those who have experienced  a major transformation in the results in their lives.  I am one of them!

Watch the video and take the Challenge here!

God Bless,

Ben and Tanya

Leadership principles and thoughts

Here is a great article written by the TEAM.  I thought it was worthy of re-posting because it exemplifies one of the key principles of success in business and in LIFE. Positive thoughts and a great attitude only come from applying the ‘Slight Edge’ principle which states that the little things we do over time is what determines our success.  Along the journey, on a day by day basis, we are bombarded with negativity, whether it be at work or at home.  Although we don’t always control what happens to us, the only thing we can control is how we respond and react to the things we cannot control.

This quick article references self talk.  Not only do we get bombarded by external forces, we all have a tendency to talk to ourselves, which influences how we think, act and respond.  The key is to have the right thinking which leads to positive self talk, positive thinking, positive actions and positive results. Thank Goodness for the cd’s, books and association of the TEAM and LIFE to help us on our journey. Enjoy.  Ben

Leadership thoughts and principles

We all face our own bouts with doubt and fear. Sometimes, the negative side of our brains can really give us a run for our money. When this happens, it helps to be able to “re-script” our self-talk. That’s one of the reasons that affirmations are such powerful things. Self-talk sets the stage for the thoughts, words and deeds that will follow. For every “I can’t”, there’s an “I can” with the power to get things done… 

If you’ve been wrangling with the dangers of negativity in your own life, here are some positive thoughts and principles that can revolutionize the way you’re looking at leadership…. 

Everyone is called upon to lead in some capacity sooner or later in life. 

Each of us has a natural well-spring of talent and ability buried within. 

“In a broad sense, what leaders do is stage revolutions.” Noel Tichy 

All big fires start with a tiny spark. 

Leadership is the influence of others in a productive, vision-driven direction and is done through the example, conviction and character of the leader. 

Leaders can’t stand to leave things the way they found them. 

Anybody can grow in their leadership ability. 

People make extraordinary things happen by liberating the leader within. 

Leadership is both Art and Science. 

Hunger for change and improvement is one of the biggest facets of leadership.

“We don’t determine our purpose, we detect it.” Victor Frankl 

Leaders must live in the realm of the important, not in the realm of the urgent.

Leaders must have a vision for where they want to take themselves and their organization. 

It is not what happens to you, it’s how you handle it. 

Leaders must take personal responsibility for their results. 

When one person takes responsibility for leadership, there is a ripple effect that cannot be measured. 

Goals must be clear. A leader cannot passionately pursue a generality. 

True leadership requires the ability to focus. 

Leaders know they always have more to learn. 

Leaders must grow personally. It is a fact of life for leaders that they must get better.

“Internal victories precede external victories.” Stephen Covey 

“A true leader inspires other to lead themselves.” Ari D. Kaplan 

The best education comes from those who have results in life. 

You don’t know what you don’t know. 

When the going gets tough, the tough get going. 

Success is always located on the other side of inconvenience. 

The only way to BE happy is to GIVE happy. 

Our privileges are not for our pleasure, but rather for our purpose. 

Leadership requires thick skin. 

Success comes when opportunity and preparedness meet. 

If you’re too big to follow then you’re too small to lead. 

People will buy into the leader before they will buy into his or her vision. 

Courage is not action devoid of fear; it is action in spite of fear. 

If you want a great team, you’ve got to find and develop great people. 

Great leaders learn to find a defeat in every victory and a victory in every defeat. 

Problems are much easier to kill when they are small. 

There are no shortcuts when it comes to relationships. 

Problems are the price of progress.

To have a high quality of life, we must have a high quality of thought. 

“Change that ignores the heart will seldom transform the life.” Paul David Tripp 

“The only way for evil to flourish is for good men to do nothing.” Edmund Burke 

When the weight of the world starts to drag you down, don’t despair. Just get busy and start building up your self-talk! Even leaders have rough times and hard days. Without the right fuel to get you through it, it’s easy to slip from Champ thinking to Chump thinking… 

When doubt strikes, strike back!

How to avoid a train wreck in LIFE

Hello all,

I wanted to share something that hit home for me not too long ago. I was listening to a cd from our Leadership Development Organization, TEAM, and it was about avoiding train wrecks. What does that mean really? When they speak of avoiding a train wreck and described what they meant, it made so much sense based on some of the events that have occurred in my life recently. This is my interpretation of what they mean by avoiding a train wreck:

In our lives, many of us face daily struggles as well as life changing events. For me, in the last few months, I experienced a death in the family, some health issues and had some major concerns about my career as an airline pilot. Life seems to be a series of challenges that must be overcome. In our everyday life, we face disappointments, struggles, family issues, work issues, health issues and relationship issues. How we deal with them is what is most important because those issues will never go away. We know that much.

So how do we deal with those issues? What do we mean by avoiding a train wreck? Since TEAM focuses on leadership training and mentor ship,  the first step begins with changing our thinking learning how to avoid problems before they develop. Team focuses on leadership and personal development. That is the focus of this blog. Information alone is not the key; correct information applied at the right time is the key.  Having a mentor or a coach is a big part of this to help guide you thru the mine field safely.

Whatever your goals are in life, we should all strive to improve ourselves.  We all hope to gain wisdom as we get older. The problem is, where are we getting our information from? Who are we learning from? If we learn from people who mean well but dont have the fruit on the tree, then we have learned from the wrong source.

To avoid a train wreck, it is important to understand what leads up to the train wreck. I want to briefly describe this process as it pertains to being healthy, wealthy and wise.

Leadership and personal development training are game changers.  How can we make a difference in people’s lives? How can we do that and avoid some of the horrible things that we DO have control over?

Let’s discuss being healthy first. In my opinion, if you do not have your health, you don’t have anything and your entire world revolves around your health. How many of you have been sick or know someone that has been really sick? My sister Linda, who passed away from Leukemia a few months back lived the last years of her life fighting for her life. That was not the way to live. We have all of this great knowledge and studies that maintaining an active and healthy life style is critical for longevity.

Why is it still that cancer and disease dominate our society? When someone gets sick and their mortality is challenged, then they may change their habits. What would anyone do for the chance to go back in time and fix the things that caused their illness? If I was on my death bed prematurely, I would do anything to go back and fix the problem. Anything. The problem is for most, when we are diagnosed with cancer, it is often too late.

When we discuss health and tell the world that eating your fruits and vegetables will prevent disease, why is it so hard to do that? Well it is hard because our lives are so busy and fast food is the staple of today’s society. If you dont have your health, you dont have much. It should be our priority.  Dont wait until its too late to make smart decisions. Easier said than done but it is just a decision.  I believe that your decisions are influenced by information and education so start reading and listenting a little bit more on health related matters. Even a small change in your diet and excercise can make a huge difference.

As for avoiding a wealthy train wreck, it is clear that 95% of our society is affected by the economy today. We are robbing Peter to pay Paul and are financing our gas tanks. Most people have either experienced a job loss or know someone that has in the last few years. Our society believes that the Government is going to take care of us and everything will be alright. Who ever believes this is fooling themselves.

Whatever we do, I believe it is important to consider a Plan B and to take financial responsibility for ourselves. If you were ever told to go to school, get good grades and get a good stable job with benefits, then you are not alone. If you went and did all that, how is it working out for you? Are you living pay check to pay check and spending more time at work then with the people you love? Are you making millions of dollars for your company and only getting paid pennies on the dollar while having all the responsibility? Is back stabbing and corporate downsizing affecting your job status? All I know is that my expensive education and career path as an airline pilot has resulted in pay cut after pay cut, job loss after job loss, pensions lost or wiped out and my poor 401k reduced down to just a “k”.

Someone once said, ” The person who can change his mind based on new information, can rule the world” How you think and how you were taught to think defines your actions. If you were taught to go out, get a good education, get a good job and work hard, then that is something you most likely received from your parents like me. This was Industrial age thinking. We are now in the information age and when we talk about avoiding a train wreck, it makes sense to do something that is going to propel you forward, helping to avoid devastation if you were to lose your job or your health.

Even if you keep your job and live what the Department of Labor calls the 45 Year plan, then what we need to really think about is retirement and how we are living our lives now. Do we wish we had more time, money, security in our lives? The definition of insanity is continuing to do the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. If we don’t change some things in our life, then we are going to have a train wreck.

We are expected to live well into our 70’s and 80’s now on Social Security, savings and investments. A train wreck is coming unless we do something now to avoid it. How are we expected to live happily into our retirement years on 1/2 to 1/3 of the salary we already couldn’t live comfortably off of to begin with. With rising health insurance costs and health issues, our expenses are only going to go up, not down. So what do we do? Something… anything different that will add security to our lives, help us pay off debt and allow us the time and freedom to spend time with family and friends. We are getting our information from the wrong sources if we are broke, have no time in our lives and feel like we are running on a hamster wheel. Get information from the right source on how to get your finances in order and develop a plan B.

Last but not least, how do we avoid a train wreck with being wise. Someone once said, “Wisdom consists of the anticipation of consequences”. Do we really know or understand what the consequences of our actions are? What I am constantly striving for in my life is a balance between my professional life and my personal life. I have gone through some personal struggles, some family and relationship struggles, which is what most people that breathe air on this planet go through. I know that there are not too many things I can control in life but Orrin Woodword said, ” The only thing you can control in life is the way you think about the things you cannot control”

I have made it my mission in life to learn. I do so now primarily from listening to cd’s and reading endless books from many individuals with a lot more knowledge and wisdom than I have. From a business standpoint, I have Defined what I want, learned from the people that already have what I want and then committed to doing what is necessary to achieving those goals. If I learn from the people that have already achieved success, then that is the first step. In school, I was told to go out and get the job you want, learn how to do your job and then the paycheck I received, defined my lifestyle. It was completely opposite from what we should be doing. Again, I was a victim of Industrial age thinking and had to reprogram what I was taught all my life. This is how millionaires think.

How do we avoid a train wreck in our personal lives, in our relationships with others and in everything we do? Learn about yourself, learn from others. My personal development, hunger to change, thirst for knowledge and willingness to do whatever I need to do to achieve my goals, is what has allowed me to be successful. I just want to pass that along to everyone because before I got involved with TEAM, my thought process was different. What they taught me and what I have learned has positively impacted every aspect of my life.

I believe we could all be healthier, wealthier and wiser, no matter who you are. It was a matter of realizing it and willing to invest time in ourselves. A lot of people invest in a lot of different things except themselves. By becoming a better leader, we become better at everything in our lives, from being a better spouse, sibling, friend, parent and business person. Who wouldn’t want that? We can all avoid a train wreck in these 3 categories and TEAM combined can help you achieve that. We believe in having fun, making money and making a difference in people’s lives.

As I continue to learn, my hope and desire is to help others achieve their goals. The more I serve and help others, the more I learn that life is short and what we do in the time we are here is what defines us as we leave a legacy. The journey is long and the destination may be far, but it is not the destination that is as important as who we become along the journey to that destination. God Bless.