I wanted to share something that hit home for me not too long ago. I was listening to a cd from our Leadership Development Organization, TEAM, and it was about avoiding train wrecks. What does that mean really? When they speak of avoiding a train wreck and described what they meant, it made so much sense based on some of the events that have occurred in my life recently. This is my interpretation of what they mean by avoiding a train wreck:
In our lives, many of us face daily struggles as well as life changing events. For me, in the last few months, I experienced a death in the family, some health issues and had some major concerns about my career as an airline pilot. Life seems to be a series of challenges that must be overcome. In our everyday life, we face disappointments, struggles, family issues, work issues, health issues and relationship issues. How we deal with them is what is most important because those issues will never go away. We know that much.
So how do we deal with those issues? What do we mean by avoiding a train wreck? Since TEAM focuses on leadership training and mentor ship, the first step begins with changing our thinking learning how to avoid problems before they develop. Team focuses on leadership and personal development. That is the focus of this blog. Information alone is not the key; correct information applied at the right time is the key. Having a mentor or a coach is a big part of this to help guide you thru the mine field safely.
Whatever your goals are in life, we should all strive to improve ourselves. We all hope to gain wisdom as we get older. The problem is, where are we getting our information from? Who are we learning from? If we learn from people who mean well but dont have the fruit on the tree, then we have learned from the wrong source.
To avoid a train wreck, it is important to understand what leads up to the train wreck. I want to briefly describe this process as it pertains to being healthy, wealthy and wise.
Leadership and personal development training are game changers. How can we make a difference in people’s lives? How can we do that and avoid some of the horrible things that we DO have control over?
Let’s discuss being healthy first. In my opinion, if you do not have your health, you don’t have anything and your entire world revolves around your health. How many of you have been sick or know someone that has been really sick? My sister Linda, who passed away from Leukemia a few months back lived the last years of her life fighting for her life. That was not the way to live. We have all of this great knowledge and studies that maintaining an active and healthy life style is critical for longevity.
Why is it still that cancer and disease dominate our society? When someone gets sick and their mortality is challenged, then they may change their habits. What would anyone do for the chance to go back in time and fix the things that caused their illness? If I was on my death bed prematurely, I would do anything to go back and fix the problem. Anything. The problem is for most, when we are diagnosed with cancer, it is often too late.
When we discuss health and tell the world that eating your fruits and vegetables will prevent disease, why is it so hard to do that? Well it is hard because our lives are so busy and fast food is the staple of today’s society. If you dont have your health, you dont have much. It should be our priority. Dont wait until its too late to make smart decisions. Easier said than done but it is just a decision. I believe that your decisions are influenced by information and education so start reading and listenting a little bit more on health related matters. Even a small change in your diet and excercise can make a huge difference.
As for avoiding a wealthy train wreck, it is clear that 95% of our society is affected by the economy today. We are robbing Peter to pay Paul and are financing our gas tanks. Most people have either experienced a job loss or know someone that has in the last few years. Our society believes that the Government is going to take care of us and everything will be alright. Who ever believes this is fooling themselves.
Whatever we do, I believe it is important to consider a Plan B and to take financial responsibility for ourselves. If you were ever told to go to school, get good grades and get a good stable job with benefits, then you are not alone. If you went and did all that, how is it working out for you? Are you living pay check to pay check and spending more time at work then with the people you love? Are you making millions of dollars for your company and only getting paid pennies on the dollar while having all the responsibility? Is back stabbing and corporate downsizing affecting your job status? All I know is that my expensive education and career path as an airline pilot has resulted in pay cut after pay cut, job loss after job loss, pensions lost or wiped out and my poor 401k reduced down to just a “k”.
Someone once said, ” The person who can change his mind based on new information, can rule the world” How you think and how you were taught to think defines your actions. If you were taught to go out, get a good education, get a good job and work hard, then that is something you most likely received from your parents like me. This was Industrial age thinking. We are now in the information age and when we talk about avoiding a train wreck, it makes sense to do something that is going to propel you forward, helping to avoid devastation if you were to lose your job or your health.
Even if you keep your job and live what the Department of Labor calls the 45 Year plan, then what we need to really think about is retirement and how we are living our lives now. Do we wish we had more time, money, security in our lives? The definition of insanity is continuing to do the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. If we don’t change some things in our life, then we are going to have a train wreck.
We are expected to live well into our 70’s and 80’s now on Social Security, savings and investments. A train wreck is coming unless we do something now to avoid it. How are we expected to live happily into our retirement years on 1/2 to 1/3 of the salary we already couldn’t live comfortably off of to begin with. With rising health insurance costs and health issues, our expenses are only going to go up, not down. So what do we do? Something… anything different that will add security to our lives, help us pay off debt and allow us the time and freedom to spend time with family and friends. We are getting our information from the wrong sources if we are broke, have no time in our lives and feel like we are running on a hamster wheel. Get information from the right source on how to get your finances in order and develop a plan B.
Last but not least, how do we avoid a train wreck with being wise. Someone once said, “Wisdom consists of the anticipation of consequences”. Do we really know or understand what the consequences of our actions are? What I am constantly striving for in my life is a balance between my professional life and my personal life. I have gone through some personal struggles, some family and relationship struggles, which is what most people that breathe air on this planet go through. I know that there are not too many things I can control in life but Orrin Woodword said, ” The only thing you can control in life is the way you think about the things you cannot control”
I have made it my mission in life to learn. I do so now primarily from listening to cd’s and reading endless books from many individuals with a lot more knowledge and wisdom than I have. From a business standpoint, I have Defined what I want, learned from the people that already have what I want and then committed to doing what is necessary to achieving those goals. If I learn from the people that have already achieved success, then that is the first step. In school, I was told to go out and get the job you want, learn how to do your job and then the paycheck I received, defined my lifestyle. It was completely opposite from what we should be doing. Again, I was a victim of Industrial age thinking and had to reprogram what I was taught all my life. This is how millionaires think.
How do we avoid a train wreck in our personal lives, in our relationships with others and in everything we do? Learn about yourself, learn from others. My personal development, hunger to change, thirst for knowledge and willingness to do whatever I need to do to achieve my goals, is what has allowed me to be successful. I just want to pass that along to everyone because before I got involved with TEAM, my thought process was different. What they taught me and what I have learned has positively impacted every aspect of my life.
I believe we could all be healthier, wealthier and wiser, no matter who you are. It was a matter of realizing it and willing to invest time in ourselves. A lot of people invest in a lot of different things except themselves. By becoming a better leader, we become better at everything in our lives, from being a better spouse, sibling, friend, parent and business person. Who wouldn’t want that? We can all avoid a train wreck in these 3 categories and TEAM combined can help you achieve that. We believe in having fun, making money and making a difference in people’s lives.
As I continue to learn, my hope and desire is to help others achieve their goals. The more I serve and help others, the more I learn that life is short and what we do in the time we are here is what defines us as we leave a legacy. The journey is long and the destination may be far, but it is not the destination that is as important as who we become along the journey to that destination. God Bless.